how do you guys deal with it? especially if one of your spouse has a bad temper?
Question to husbands: if your wifey get mad on a little thing or complain this or that how do you guys really deal with it? get mad in return or just ignore her till she is done eating ur brain out?
Wives: Lets say you hubbies get mad on little stupid things and their temper gets high for 5-10 min n then they calm down, what do you guys do during that 5-10 min period? yell back at them or get quiet knowin they will calm down eventually?
Zabardast questions Loise and thanks for letting us talk about on these serious issues.
First whoever is your (or whomever you are telling) is husband if you come to gs pleas don't do that to Loise or that person. Otherwise I'm gonna come and hit on your head with hathora.
I would answer from both Wife and Husband both side if you don't mind.
If a husband ignore what her wife saying that means he don't want to listen and without his listening problems can't be solved so when a wife keep eating his brain means there is a problem so she wants him to involve and solve and if he doesn't listen the problem with remain their so she would keep eating his brain. I thought I'm only the brain eater. I love to eat maghaz. lol My mom was best cook.
Husband ko problem solve karnay ki koshish karni chahyay na kay ignore. Darasaal husband jin baton ko itni ahmiaaat naheen detay wo us kay baray main sunna ya baat karna bhi pasand naheen kartay. Isliaay unka kaan khain kay dimagh koi farq naheen parta. I say keep bhonking he don't wanna listen to you. He think wife is like barking dogs. lol
What kind of husband do that? The Husbands who doesn't love her that much so don't want to solve her problems. Otherwise a loving husband would always want to try to solve her problem.
But it depends if it is the problem between his wife and family member then the rule they always follow blood is thicker than wife. No matter what their family members do to his wife wrong or right.
For other matters may be he don't want to involve or don't give a damn importance.
My father never ever listen to my mom. She had no one to listen to her and help her but she always did everything by herself. One thing I konw very well so keep barking infront of your husband he is not gonna listen to you.
Then when I saw that from my buchpun and found my father listen to me and love so I took a step and always whatever is truth or right to I took that persons side no matter mom or dad. I loved my dad. Didn't love that much to my mom and she didn't like me that much.
I always help her and felt so sorry for her. So yeah involve your kids the one who is your husbands favourite kid. lol That works very well. So I did help a lot. No matter kids are young or adult or whatever.
Try to the way he likes for conversation. Don't yell back when he is Red hot chilli. That's what I learn from my parents. If you say a single word to that abnormal person it becomes 'JALTI PER TAIL DALNA".
So when he is in his abnormal phase keep quiet. Later talk to him about that situation. And show him that what he did to you was wrong and him appoligize to you about his behaviour. Ask him not to do again. Ask him to promise you not to do that again. Naraz ho jain baat na karain (3 din say ziada naheen). Show that you are angry about his behaviour. Say that it's a problem and bothering you and try to help you in solving your problem.
You might yell back later (I won't suggest that) but it would be good to your health to release that anger otherwise keeping inside and one day become a volcano.
If you know after ten minutes that barking dog become quite then its good. But try to tell him later. That way he can take out of his anger may be keeping for long and for different things.
My rule is Whe he she is angry or in barking phase stay calm and quiet. Later give answer to all those things he said. Ask for applogies.
What I saw from my one relative behaviour when she doesn't yell back he even doesn't let her drive. Who himself got failed many times in driving test and teaches her during driving you guys know that is too dangerous keeping quiet means he keep telling for all driving times so to stop him she has to yell back at him. As I seen this I said to my cousin that is very bad way to talk to your husband then she said wasn't it wrong during my driving he was telling me what to do and how to do continuouly to distract me. Didn't you see how long I kept quiet. The only way to make him quiet is to yell back at him.
Yeah I know that guy. He is that type of person. I don't know how my cousin is dealing with him I would have left him as soon as possible. lol
If yelling back to him works for you then yell back to make him quiet and I would say tika kay jawab do kay bolti bund ho jaay lo. I won't suggest yelling back. Tika kay jawab baad main bhi day saktay hain achchcay undaaz say.
What husbands can do is the best way listen and involve and solve. This is the best thing to make your life gr8. But usually they don't do that.
Walk away.
Keep quiet.
Don't say a single word.
Try to solve your problem yourself without involving him/her if he/she doesn't care.
Try to talk on heating issue when he/she is in good mood with good atmosphere.
Try to charaha him/her by tareefing. Every one likes tareef.
Talk about the one issue at a time or little bit about an issue.
Keep reciting Innallah Maas Sabereen.
Ask Allah's help.
Humble reqest to husbands and Wifes:
Becharion ki baat dhiaan say sun lia karain chahay us pay amal karain na karain. Amal karna zaroori naheen laikin unko thunda karnay kay liaay pyar o mohabbat say sun lain aur unko do chaar bol unki himaat kay bol dain unkay liaay wo hi kafi rahay ga. Phir aap bhi aapnay kaan aur dimagh ko bachalain gay.
Wife plz apnay husband ki repect karain khuwah wo respect kay qabil na bhi ho. Unki baat sunaain. Unko itna apnay her problem main involve naheen karain wo pehlay hi job pay bohat say problems face kartay hain. Zaroori naheen kay wo share karain.
Husbands chahtay hain sakoon milay ghar main akar so aap wo sukoon unko panain dain to becharay mazloom jain kahan agar ghar main aap dimagh khain aur bahar co worker + boss.
Husbands her baat ko itni ahmiaat naheen detay jitni larkiaan choti choti baton ko bhi aham samajhti hain.
My father was the worst in her ghussa. Even was highly educated and a respectable person and nice person in outer world but worst at home.
y is so hard to reply to life1 threads?
or u may say i dont make things complicated