tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?

Theorist · February 25, 2014, 5:11pm

Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?

Hey,

does anyone here hide how much savings/salary they have? I ask because my husband keeps on randomly asking to see my paycheck/know my salary/see my bank balances. I never show him as, a) I feel like since he doesnt contribute anything, and isnt working. why should I tell him. b) I feel like once he knows how much I earn, he will get an idea of howmuch i save, how much i have in savings, and incase something happens between us, I will end up having difficulty protecting my assets. c) on multiple occations, during arguements, he has said "ill take 50% of everything you have. and has said Inshalla we will divorce/Ill leave you.d) he keeps on demanding I forgive his haq mahar.

I know its pretty toxic relationship, so just wanted some feedback, if I am doing the right thing by not showing him my finances. I feel like with all this going on, I would be dumb to show him my earnings. But then I was thinking in the future, when he earns and we file joint tax returns, he will see what I make anyway.

Wait, what?!

This is not normal. Do you even have a normal relationship with this guy outside of financial problems? A wife is not a hoor pari who should not have to contribute to household expenses. If she earns, she should contribute. Somehow everyone seems to be okay with this double standard. I don’t get it. Unless this guy is a d***, you should contribute even when he is not working. That is the whole point of marriage. If it’s okay for you stay at home, it’s okay for him to stay at home.