tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?

[cpa2011]

Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?

@PyariCgudia

Was this a random guy or families know each other? Is he doing something to get a job here like studying for exams, etc? Has he tried applying for school?

What were the plans before marriage in terms of realistic expectations of him getting a job here or what would be involved in him getting a job. Sometimes converting your degree here means peanuts and so guys with decent jobs in Pakistan start from ground zero when they get here - was he aware of this?

Did he demonstrate being financially responsible for his family in Pakistan? Or were his parents financially responsible for their household?

Before marriage he used to say “your money is your money, and my money is your money”
He said that it would take him a year to get on his feet, pass some exams. His parents were responsible for their household. He talked about becoming really rich, of saving money, getting a house…

Look I think I mentioned to you, going to pakistan is a crapshot, either you get a good guy, or you get a loser. Thats it, and you really have no way of knowing until the guy actually gets here. My biggest error was that when we were engaged, he would stay very very quiet, and try to get me to talk more, and a couple times I mentioned it, like why are you so quiet. My problem was he showed himself as a completely different person.