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after reading an article like this, what are some of the thoughts of fellow guppies? there is a lot to be done to separate the various reflections, of the over all picture that Muslim teens are framed in.

hopefully a non judgemental discussion can take place.

Dushwari

BY NANCIE L. KATZ
DAILY NEWS STAFF WRITER
Friday, August 17th 2007, 4:00 AM
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime_file/2007/08/17/2007-08-17_teen_tells_of_forbidden_love.html
She didn’t want to be sent back to Pakistan, the runaway wrote her angry father. In a letter also sent to cops, 15-year-old Maryam Khalid also warned him not to hurt her boyfriend’s family.
For the first time, a Brooklyn jury heard the teen’s own words, written just three months before her father and three relatives allegedly tortured her boyfriend’s uncle, trying to make him reveal where the couple had fled to.
“I and my boyfriend, Usaman Rana, are together,” she wrote to her family in the letter, read in Brooklyn Supreme Court. “The reason I ran away was because I wasn’t happy. [My family] made the decision they were going to send me back to Pakistan.”
“I never wanted that to happen to me,” read the letter, dated May 27, 2006. “I don’t want to lose Rana because I love him. Why are they bothering Rana’s family when it’s not their fault? I don’t want anything to happen to Rana’s family.”
Her boyfriend’s uncle, Rana Hussain, testified earlier that Javed Khalid, 53, Maryam’s father; Azad Malik, 67; Shafiq Mohammed, 41, and Sada Hussein, 39, pushed him into his Brooklyn apartment on Aug. 10, 2006, then handcuffed and bound him.
The diminutive, Pakistani-born man said the attackers demanded he reveal Maryam’s whereabouts, torturing him with a hammer, a metal pipe, knives and a gun. They also demanded copies of letters from Maryam and Mohammed’s daughter, Alia, who initially ran away from her home too, he said. In closing arguments yesterday, defense lawyers branded the uncle a liar, saying there was no forensic evidence to back him up.
The four defendants, who face up to 25 years behind bars if convicted, dispute that the girls actually wrote the letters. They also deny prosecution allegations that Khalid had promised Maryam to a wealthy suitor in Pakistan.
But prosecutors told jurors Hussain had no reason to lie, playing a dramatic 911 tape of his labored breathing and cries of pain when he called for help after the attack. In her letter, Maryam also wrote that she was sending copies to the 66th and 61st NYPD precincts.
Hussain testified Maryam’s outraged father refused his requests to let the girl marry his nephew because he was too poor.
Maryam, who just turned 17, married her boyfriend. The couple are still in hiding.

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Her parents are sickos!

They'd rather their daughter married a rich man from back home and be unhappy rather than marry someone poor but she loves and will be happy with??

Material possessions don't mean fcuk all in the face of love..

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ur sweet taboo her parents r wrong but the girl is wrong 2
in islam children have to keep their parents izzat
and the girl is more ruining her parents by shame
if that was me my parents would come first no matter wat

I need a pampering thread :-(
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parents have every right to control her and stop her love affairs, given that shes a minor... but the methods used by them are obviously uncalled for..

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You reap what you sow. If her parents had given her proper upbringing , it wudnt happen they way it did . when ya child is young , u keep urself bzee in making money , neva bother to share ya time with him/her , neva take time out to yr child comfey with yr social values . And when they reach teen and start acting like other western kids . You start sending them to places they neva belong . A teen age kid is just like a horse ya can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. You can't have it both ways Parents !

Last person to answer this post wins!!!!
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thanks every one, all have their perspectives well said.
it is true that up bringing has a lot to do with this age and the nature of the issue.

interaction of teens as young people, together with the psychosocial and physiological aspects are undeniable reasons for having principles in place to guard the security and safety of the two involved. in case of the minors, there is an obvious problem, they cant support themselves, they are too young mentally to engage as a couple and if anything the parents must confront the two and talk to them about their limits.

trying to get the girl forcefully engaged else where and according to the despicable traditions of a well set way older man, or hurting the young man is not right.

similarly, for the two to elope is not healthy for anyone. who suffers the most is the Mom of the girl and of the boy.

the reason why i posted it here is to share an instance of how Muslims teens are viewed nowadays in America in terms of their brought up, complexities in family ties and their flawed social interactions that further deteriorates their future stability and psychological health.

if it is not a case of a minors, parents must get the two married before they end up being together unlawfully. the protection and the nobility in marriage with a committed partner in the context of a Muslim couple's desire to be together, is a good thing. it has to be removed from the illicitness as well as prevented from future regret of not having being handled in a fair and objective manner. of course who is to say, who is trust worthy any longer. yet the hope is that many other teenage Muslim girls and boys and their parents have learnt something from this story right here in the heart of a well populated desi community in Brooklyn, NY.
may Allah preserve the sanctity of marriage as a noble contract between able young Muslims. amen.

Dushwari

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Her parents don't acre about izzat, they're care about money, they'd rather she married a rich old biddy than somebody she loves.

Like the others have said, you can't expect your kids to grow up to be a Paki if you're going to bring them up with azadi as a Gora!

You can't have your cake and eat it too, all this "we trust our daughter, she knows her limits" just doesn't work, if you want them to have Paki values, you give them a conservative upbringing, especially here in the west you have to actively teach kids your Paki ways if you want them to value them, they're not magically going to develop them..

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Man you Americans are backward, 17 is minor over there?

Over here the age of consent for sex and marriage is 16..

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16 only with parents permission, otherwise its 18.

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I'm not American you ignorant fool.

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That is Bull-isht.

If you have given your kids a good upbringing you have every reason to have faith in that tarbeeyaht and trust them. If however you know your child, (or are mentally deranged) - are well aware that she < I like how you point to the daughter, is a closet freak..then by all means tighten the leash.

I agree with the reaping and sowing sentiment.

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Hadd se ziyaada aazaadi ke nataaij iss mulk mein Mirpuri larrkiyon se saaf zaahir hain, they're a step above even Gorian..

Kids don't know their limits and need teaching...

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Zubaan ko laghaam deejiyey..

american, canadian, same thing..

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I cant be bothered with you.

laitergaitor.