We live in Lahore. Our elder son used to be a very good and well-behaved boy till he was about 13.. but then he started becoming rude, disobedient and undisciplined. Now he is 17 and is totally beyond our control. We have a very close-knit family unit and always thought we would never let him go astray because of parents-children distance. We’ve been more friends to him than parents. But all of that has amounted to nothing. We also have a younger son (12) but he is perfectly fine.
We have been seeing a psychiatrist for the elder one but besides putting him on some medicines, he hasn’t helped him in any way for his behaviour. Can anyone suggest a good experienced physiologist / psychiatrist who may help our son put his life in order.. and us as well?
I don't know enough about this stuff but I think you need a child psychologist who is up to date with current issues.
Teenage boys are generally unruly, there may be compounding reasons for this or they may not be.
I have four younger brothers. The only one that had problems from 12-17 was my brother who has asperger's. His social issues caused by this (lack of empathy, inability to understand when people joking as opposed to being serious, not being able to understand the concept of authority) really manifested themselves during this period when young boys are generally in that awkward stage anyway.
To an outsider he would have just seemed very naughty and lacking in discipline. And yes... he did not have discipline over himself but that is an inherent thing which has had to learn to deal with.... and he has done so.
I'm not saying your son may suffer from anything like this but you really need to find if there are any underlying issues.