Re: Teen agers and "dont tell me what to do?!"
Every child has a phase in his life during which he has a strong desire to be independent and to be 'trusted' too. If the parents try to guide him or help him the child often take it in a wrong way like he feels that "his parents do not trust his abilities that he can make wise decisions that's why they don't want him to take decisions independently". In fact mostly parents have their own intentions, it's their love and care, plus fear that Khudanakhuasta if the child is going to face some loss, this doesn't let them leave their child free.
The best solution is that first you should try to keep good relations with your children and always make them feel that you trust them. In the end, children also would come to you to suggest them about any matter of their life. Your trust would make them build their self-confidence.