In-laws love to control their DIL’s. We all know that.
What are some ways to not fall into the trap of control, ladies, do share how you do it? :halo:
Rule # 1: Don't obsess over the preconceived (and false) idea that "all in laws are evil".
Rule # 2: Refer back to rule # 1
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don't live with them...don't ever call them :D
Techniques on How to Not Be Controlled
I totally need help on the above....#Help...
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marry someone from the orphanage
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Stick to your grounds, stay polite and courteous.
Be diplomatic.
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: Don't take every thing to heart
: try to do the expected things u can easily..
: do a lot of " Butt kissing"
: if u don't agree with some thing being said.. pretend that u cant hear it
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how would you feel when you will become mother in law and your daughter in law ask same techniques?
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Be open and honest. If you feel like they're overstepping their boundaries, communicate that to them nicely. Many women fall into the trap of remaining silent when they're being treated unfairly and then suddenly one day the oppression gets too much and all hell breaks loose. At that point the relationship is very likely beyond repair.
Most importantly, keep an open mind and give them a fair chance. The worst thing you can do is assume they're evil and deny yourself the chance of a fulfilling relationship. I don't agree with everything my in-laws do, but the support and love I get from them is well worth the minor hassle of adjusting to their quirks.
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don't immediately assume that their attempts to have you "fall in line" with how things are done in their family is their effort to "control" you......
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PCG...you will have to give in at times. Its not control...its called compromise and that's just a fact of life.
Control is your inlaws telling you what to wear, how to do your hair, trying to take your money, telling you how to live your life and then expecting you to follow exactly as they say.
Compromise is letting them have their way once in a while but holding your ground on the more important things in life.
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I never knew that 
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don't immediately assume that their attempts to have you "fall in line" with how things are done in their family is their effort to "control" you......
Ditto!
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PCG...you will have to give in at times. Its not control...its called compromise and that's just a fact of life.
Control is your inlaws telling you what to wear, how to do your hair, trying to take your money, telling you how to live your life and then expecting you to follow exactly as they say.
Compromise is letting them have their way once in a while but holding your ground on the more important things in life.
Ditto!
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And please remember..if they are asking something from their son that doesn't mean they are trying to control their DIL through their son, unless it directly relates to you.
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Pee everywhere to mark your territory and establish dominance.
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You have hereby solved most saas-bahu problems
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^What Ghost said :k:
Or just do an all-over lick of your husband’s face in front of your in-laws, so they know he’s your property. Do it on the shaadi…preferably in the presence of an imam…and before dinner is served, so you have a wider range of attentive witnesses. Maybe try this more civil strategy before you go on a peeing spree.
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Im just wondering what might be In-laws's insecurities. They maybe thinking the same, DILs love to control In-laws!