i agree with the folks here who say its important. i want my kid to be able to communicate with my side of the family, like understanding jokes without needing translation (ruins the punch line :p) and speaking to his great grandmother iA too who doesn't speak any english. plus, because he's a mixed race kid, i want to ensure my culture/religion are represented properly and thoroughly to him so he doesn't grow up feeling left out of anything. i don't think i would be so sensitive about it if i had married a desi, to be honest, because we do speak a lot of english at home and always have, over urdu. my younger brother barely speaks any urdu and when he does, you can tell he's not comforable because its not his first language. i'd feel terrible if my kid was the same, frankly. i have a very good friend who married a french dude. she only speaks to her kid in urdu, he only speaks to him in french. kid is 3 now and he responds in urdu to his mom, french to his dad. it helps that both parents also mostly understand both the languages involved, but i think they've got the right idea. a lot of the credit goes to my friend for being so consistent and diligent about it.
i speak to the baby in urdu primarily but when hubby is home, i do a mix of urdu and english so hubby doesn't feel left out (he's not desi), and my parents only speak to the baby in urdu. so far, he responds more to urdu than english. hubby hasn't spoken to baby in his language at all thus far so i'm not sure how much of it he'll grasp as he grows up. it doesn't help that its an extremely difficult one and sounds like garbled klingon. doh!
i don't speak any of hubby's language and i'm constantly reminding him and his family to translate their conversations for me. it gets super annoying, honestly.
Thats the right attitude and im sure if you remain consistent... It will pay off...and how amazing isit...a kid k owing multiple languages... Such an edgeover others!
Why doesn your husband speak tp him in his lingo? How cool would it be..a desi kid knowing *********
Awesome!
A close friend is polish married to a pakistani guy.. She speaks to the kid in polish... He speaks in urdu...and they speak to each other in english or danish... The kid goes to kg and hey speak danish tjere...
He is midget's age... And he speaks...get tvis...english, urdu, polish and danish!!!!!!!! He learned to speak very late..nearly 2 yrs cuz its normal for multicultured kids that have paents actively speaking their own languages at home... But he understood it all... And now that he speaks...he speaks all 4 lingos perfectlyø... Im gobsmacked !!!
personaly im born british and mum and dad both understand it and can talk back to us in english too. Whilst we were growing up my mum has always been strict on education so we went to mosque after school were we learnt how to read the quran as well as read and write urdu.... So as an adult now i can read write and speak in urdu and have only recently visited pakistan..... ppl do find it quite un-usual that us as british born children who don't realy speak in urdu cna read/ write and speak it
ppl do find it quite un-usual that us as british born children who don't realy speak in urdu cna read/ write and speak it
I think it is pretty unusual for someone born 'n raised outside of Pak to know how to read 'n write Urdu but it's great that you do. But how much would you want your children to know, if any?
He is midget's age... And he speaks...get tvis...english, urdu, polish and danish!!!!!!!! He learned to speak very late..nearly 2 yrs cuz its normal for multicultured kids that have paents actively speaking their own languages at home... But he understood it all... And now that he speaks...he speaks all 4 lingos perfectlyø... Im gobsmacked !!!
That's amazing! When that kid is older he can work for the UN ;)
A friend of mine, french/American, holds couple of PhDs and masters, etc. speaks like 4 languages. His son, speaks French, English, German and one more I don't remember, maybe polish? Its amazing to see them switch between german, french and english.
I think many desis parents feel ASHAMED of their background and culture hence no importance is given to their own language. I mean think about it, Urdu and PUnjabi aren't international or modern enough for them like French or German would be... and they prefer calling urdu by its fake and hijacked name, hindi.
lol why would you call Urdu hindi.. xD
thats like Japanese saying Japanese isn't actually japanese but chinese..and all the racists were right..
we all say "ching chong chao"
lol why would you call Urdu hindi.. xD
thats like Japanese saying Japanese isn't actually japanese but chinese..and all the racists were right..
we all say "ching chong chao"
I don't know Kakee, it really bothers me. Often people (ABCDS) ask me if I speak Hindi and I give them that dumb look and then they say, "oh i meant urdu" and then I say "no its not hindi, its urdu"
Some of them (who aren't born or raised in US, pakistanis) have it in their *linkedin *profiles, HINDI. WTF!
A friend of mine, french/American, holds couple of PhDs and masters, etc. speaks like 4 languages. His son, speaks French, English, German and one more I don't remember, maybe polish? Its amazing to see them switch between german, french and english.
that's amazing. it's so hard to pick up a language when you're older =\
I don't know Kakee, it really bothers me. Often people (ABCDS) ask me if I speak Hindi and I give them that dumb look and then they say, "oh i meant urdu" and then I say "no its not hindi, its urdu"
Some of them (who aren't born or raised in US, pakistanis) have it in their *linkedin *profiles, HINDI. WTF!
thats bizarre. I mean how can they call themselves pakistani when they can't even speak the language? and why do they think hindi is the same as Urdu...??
is that like how most non-south asians think that every indian speaks hindi and not gujarti, punjab etc?
that's amazing. it's so hard to pick up a language when you're older =\
if you know more than two languages it gets easier because your brain gets used to adapting.
If I remembered all the languages I've learned up till now I would know about 6 but I don't (due to only being exposed to them for a couple of years) I'm just left with recognizing the languages, being able to pick them up easily and can pronunciate them.
So parents let your kids absorb different cultures and languages and blow their minds :D or expand them whichever you prefer
I see you want your kids to lose their culture and become cool, keep at it as the rest of us Pakistanis laugh and ridicule your kids when they speak thathli Urdu.
