Its tough. He uses every trick to distract and i don’t like to be tough on him.
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What are you teaching him Icon? And how old is he?
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HE is almost 8. Mainly literacy
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there is nothing a beating stick cant make a child do.....
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be patient and persistent and show love and try to find more interesting way to teach :)
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Icon, the best thing to do is to make the task an enjoyable one. Thats easy to say but VERY difficult to implement. Try some googling about the specific areas of difficulty that your son has and you can find strategies that will help. Beleive me, with 2 boys on the autism spectrum, I know about learning difficulties lol! But really, google specifics about the trouble and you can find great strategies. Its all about making the task enjoyable AND do-able. Sometimes, even a very smart kid can become confused and overwhelmed when presented with a small roject - like tell me what this book was about. One strategy is to have the kid make a very simple numbered list of those things. THEN use that list to write the sentences. Some kids need things to be more ordered and more broken down becacuse "write what it was about" is just too overwhelming. But the amazing thing is that - you break it down using the numbered list, do this 3 or 4 times and then they go sailing off on their own and no loner need that extra step.
Good luck!!! and go google!!
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and if what Mamaof3 is suggesting does not do the job then perhaps try a slight change to your own behaviour......sometimes tough love is the right approach.
I find it hard to discipline as well and when I start going soft I remind myself that the world is not going to cut my child any breaks.........I am the only one that can prepare her for that and if I don't then her suffering in the future is nobody's fault but my own.
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Oooh Literacy is such a bummer. I used to think it would be so easy and so much fun. My daughter loves to read and she writes pretty well too. But the subject itself is a killer. She too struggled. I totally understand what your son is going through. Unfortunately, I have no suggestions apart from get him some temporary outside help. Its kind of like fine tuning the way he thinks about the questions. Soon as he gets the gist of answering several types of questions, he may be able to think for himself.
Good Luck!
PS I assume this is the British system Keystage 2 he is at?? In that case have you ever visited BBC Bitesize learning key stage 2...google it up it might be pretty helpful
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The whole problem is making him sit and do something. Its not that he can't do it or understand it, he just doesn't want to put his head down and do anything.
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^^^
like i said....theres nothing a "Danda" Cant make a child do
My friend's son has a same problem and I think my son is going to be the same.But here is what her pediatrician told her first check what is your child's patience time. At age 8 the child attention time will be around 30 minutes but since some kids are hyper so doc said that don't let him sit not more than 20 minutes and give him break after every 20 minutes for 5 minute. This way they can be less distracted and pay more attention. And when you are teaching him make sure that there less things in a room which can distract like no toys and lot of light. May be its a hyperactivity ,its not necessary to give medication but you can try multiple things.There is a book "The attention deficit child" by Dr. Grant Martin you can read that it tells good strategies to do at home.
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I have some similar issues with my boys (age 8, 7 and almost 6). The thing that we're strongly encouraged to do is to let them develop their own sense of enjoyment and help them to become literate through the books and subjects that they enjoy.
I fought this - hard. My middle son HATED reading. Then he found a series of books called - GET THIS - "Captain Underpants". O.M.G. I cant beleive these books are even at the school. But anyway. He LOVES these books. WIll read for over an hour. Will read them aloud to his brothers and talk about the story.
As much as I hated those books,, it gave him the understanding that reading can be FUN. That whole thing was like 2 months ago and now he's reading Swiss Family Robinson and White Fang.
Sometimes you have to step back and give in a bit in order to reap better rewards.
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UZ 30 minutes is a long time!
Here is a simple formula today niksik told me for reading. Multiply the age of child with 5 if my son is 4 so it is 20 minutes and for daughter who is 8 it is 40 minutes.Her teacher recommeded 35 minutes or more for 3rd graders, but I seriously believe it depends on child's stamina.
PS> Icon bhaii I told 20 minutes since your child is hyper not 30.:p
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DANDA maroo usay....
DO ultay haat ki lagaou..
char CHITer maroo!
Phankay say ulta latkaoo
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literacy games would be your best friend...
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good suggestion from Lusi.....find a subject that he is interested in and then find games relating to that subject that require him to read.
another thing that we tend to forget is that study time does not necessarily have to be stationary sitting at a desk.......kids can learn and accomplish the same results while engaged in physical activity......
I did this for my nephew who couldn't sit still when he was 6 years old:
Photocopied pages from books that he was supposed to be reading......glued them to bristol boards in three different rooms of the house.......he was required to find objects hidden around the house based on the clues provided in those pages........(I had highlighted words from those pages to make my own sentences that gave clues about where treasures were hidden.)
He loved the whole process.....and I got him to read at least three full pages of text each time.
DANDA maroo usay....
DO ultay haat ki lagaou..
char CHITer maroo!
Phankay say ulta latkaoo
Is that what they did to you?
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^^ yes..... abhi tak pain hoti hia...when i sit on my bottom.....
there is nothing a beating stick cant make a child do.....
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good gwad! lol!**