Re: Teaching Kids Chalaki
I don't know i'm just brainfarting here.
I feel sometimes wit can be the same thing as being 'aware' or being 'streetwise'. Usually children who are protected way too much by their parents (dont do this, dont play with those kids, dont do that, dont eat food from outside etc etc) end up being too depandent on their parents for everything including talking and responding on their behalf.
I'm the youngest of six and by the time i was five or six years old my parents had achieved a decent very comfortable almost posh lifestyle, as opposed to my elder sibs who had to go through some tough times when they were growing up. So compared to my elder sibs i was always the 'mummy daddy' kid since i always got everything made and i didnt have to do much fishing for myself. And that trend continued up until class 5-6ish.
Then some things happened and due to circumstances i started taking karachi's public transit to school and back. That sort of landed me with other kids in my class that people would call 'bad company' (although i still strongly maintain they were just misunderstood). Now i did get blacklisted everywhere like friends, school, teachers, people in general started stamping me the as the chichora crowd. And it was somewhat like that till class 11-12. It was during that time though that i felt i finally learnt how to talk to people, how to talk for myself. How to think quick on my toes, you know the typical Saddar influence. It also helped me build a decent amount of confidence or maybe even just the minerals that you need sometimes to stand up to a bully or any other difficult situation.
Please dont take from my story and get your kid to hang with the tough crowd :p but i think you can get an idea that if you're being too protective maybe you should loosen your grip a bit. Go out with your kid more often. Give him/her more chances to observe you interacting with people or people interacting in general. Something like that.