Last Thursday, munchkin out of the blue confessed to me “I said sorry to miss N today…” she was very proud of herself but I’m always confused about why she says sorry, cus she only ever apologises to me and daddy and only when she is aware she has done something that wasnt so right..
So I asked her.. and i must have sounded quite stern, that the poor bachi made the bulliyan kinda face and started to cry… khair she explained her version of the story that she doesnt know how to read and she swapped seats with someone (smarty pants) when it was her turn and when her teacher asked her to read, she said “sorry, I cant” to which her teacher got upset… awww my poor bacha… so i gave her a hug and said id speak to her teacher… she was upset about this too but i assured her im not upset with her, just i need to know what happened..
anyways, long story short, i did end up speaking to her teacher on Friday… and it wasnt anything… but it’s mroe the way the teacher comes across. She’s execptionally blunt and to the point and it’s qutie easy for kids to confuse her comments as her being harsh… U have to be quite tuned in…
this is soo hard.. cus I know munchkin beats herself up if a teacher doesnt appreciate her… hence the “I cant read” problem..
the other thing is, the teacher of the other prep class.. is a complete delight! she is just wonderful… young, vibrant, kids relate to her, she relates to kids… kind, sweet.. just a brilliant teacher. I am sure Miss N is as well… but she is not as welcoming…
I feel for munchkin. I dont want her to get bogged down and lose her enthusiasm… or feel she cant do something. I really dont want her to feel her teacher doesnt like her. She hasnt ever had an issue at kinder/daycare. I’d get teachers from her kinder calling me up especially to say munchkin was a delight. .. She has been reading so well at home Mashallah.. i am amazed.
I think as long as you don't think there's anthing wrong with the "harsher" teacher, this is a good opportunity for teaching munchkin about how to respond to different problems and personality types.
no i dont think there is anything wrong with the teacher. It's more the way she comes across. I mean, I bet we've all had teachers that sound or seem harsh, but are the best teachers ever. It just takes time getting used to them.
But in muchkins case, its hard to explain that to her.. cus at her age its more about how the teacher comes across. I need to somehow help munchkin realise that her teacher is a really good teacher and not upset with her.
she's had another issue before in the class, where she needed to go to the bathroom but because the teacher hadnt let some other girls go, she thought she wouldnt be allowed to as well.. and ended up having an accident in after school care... poor bubba. I've explained to her though that if she needs to go, she should ask politely... and if she doesnt get permission, then go as soon as its break time... that's been working since then.
I was like your munchkin back when I was a kid..I used to think Id b scolded so I never dared to ask my teachers anything(not even the permission to drink water or going to the restroom) and this was all because of a teacher(same as Miss N) I had in my montessori..she was not harsh but rather straightforward and not so polite/friendly..so that fear of being scolded started from there and made my school life hell..I always secured first position in class..knew all the answers to questions asked in class but never ever did I respond to them heck I avoided getting attention from my teachers so always sat where they wouldnt notice me:naak: and that ‘cant read’ part so reminds me of my childhood I had the same excuse..although i very well knew how to read..when asked questions I would say I dont know when I knew what thw answer was just cause of the fear of being scolded or hated by the teacher..thought the teachers would b upset with me if I read wrong or answered incorrectly..sigh
So please sort this out before its too late..
this is what I dont want happening and I can see it already.
I remember a few weeks back I blogged about how I got mad at munchkin for not concentrating on her reading.. and from that day she has made sure she understands and reads words properly. She has become a wonderful little reader... Mashallah se. But, yeah, at school, I am feeling she is sticking behind.. even though she is very capable.. sigh
Ermm You know better about your kiddie but Iv noticed the more we scold kids regarding school matters the more confused they get..and lose their confidence..Iv taught my two younger brothers and whenever I scolded them even if they knew the answers they would b hesitant to answer..so explaining and reasoning is the best way to get things into their mind..just my opinion..
As for your muchkin, try to boost her confidence and self esteem..praise and reward her whenever she does something properly..inshAllah she'll b fine:)