one of my friend had a bad quiz so she stayed behind late to talk to him and the teacher told her that you sit beside a loser that is why your marks are like this, you need to stop hanging around with her (he was referring to me)
she came out and told me and i was not only hurt but also pissed off i mean who gave him the right to call his students a loser..
i just do not get it im so angry
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awww...dont worry be happy. it happens!
btw did u also perform poor in the quiz?
ps. which school in toronto u go to?
i passed the quiz so i dont no what he was talking about im over at humber college
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Hmmm............Zazzy, I'm not saying that your friend is a liar. But do keep in mind that **YOU **were not there when this conversation took place.
Even if you were to complain to administration about this teacher..........the administration cannot take any action unless there is concrete evidence that your teacher made an insulting remark about you. In other words........you would need for SOMEONE ELSE besides your friend to have HEARD your teacher making this comment. And without that.......it would just be considered hearsay.
How do I know this? Because I'm a teacher.
Your friend did poorly on a quiz. That puts her in a defensive situation. People could even say that your friend was being bitter as a result of her poor quiz score........and fabricated this story as a way to spite both YOU and the teacher. People would even assume that your friend is jealous of you........and out of anger.......wanted to blame YOU for her quiz score as oppsed to accepting any responsibility for it.
Once again...........i'm not saying that your friend is lying. And it's possible that this teacher of yours truly is unprofessional. But, it would be hard to prove just based on what you've posted.
Also, one thing that I've learned over the years is that at times even the nicest and closest of our "friends" can lie and make up stuff. Don't forget that people tend to exaggerate when they're upset. It's possible that your teacher worded things in a different manner........but your friend interpreted them differently......and worded it in a way different from your teacher.
For example, a teacher might ask a student why he/she made such a careless or silly mistake on the test. The student........feeling embarrassed/angry........might tell his or her friends that the "teacher basically said that I was stupid." Although that wasn't the case.
My advice to you: Don't believe everything that you hear. Trust me....I've even seen adult co-workers tell their peers that "The boss said this thing about you." If you weren't there to witness the situation................don't dwell on it. Dwelling on the issue will solve nothing. Instead.........make POSITIVE use of your energy. Focus on studying, paying attention, doing better in that class. And if you end up doing well.........it would be interesting to see how that friend AND teacher behave towards you. If your friend becomes jealous of your progress.......something ain't right. And if your teacher becomes impressed...........you'll prove him wrong and it might secretly humble him.
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haha…profs 
i have been to both uni n college (sheridan) and trust me college profs are same everywhere. they play some weird mind games with u.
well u should tell ur friend that cant she even tell her teacher that “jaisay ustad, waisay student”. 
i would be in a huge argument with my teacher (if i were ur friend) that how come his wisdom didnt transfer to me.
Hmmm............Zazzy, I'm not saying that your friend is a liar. But do keep in mind that **YOU **were not there when this conversation took place.
Even if you were to complain to administration about this teacher..........the administration cannot take any action unless there is concrete evidence that your teacher made an insulting remark about you. In other words........you would need for SOMEONE ELSE besides your friend to have HEARD your teacher making this comment. And without that.......it would just be considered hearsay.
How do I know this? Because I'm a teacher.
Your friend did poorly on a quiz. That puts her in a defensive situation. People could even say that your friend was being bitter as a result of her poor quiz score........and fabricated this story as a way to spite both YOU and the teacher. People would even assume that your friend is jealous of you........and out of anger.......wanted to blame YOU for her quiz score as oppsed to accepting any responsibility for it.
Once again...........i'm not saying that your friend is lying. And it's possible that this teacher of yours truly is unprofessional. But, it would be hard to prove just based on what you've posted.
Also, one thing that I've learned over the years is that at times even the nicest and closest of our "friends" can lie and make up stuff. Don't forget that people tend to exaggerate when they're upset. It's possible that your teacher worded things in a different manner........but your friend interpreted them differently......and worded it in a way different from your teacher.
For example, a teacher might ask a student why he/she made such a careless or silly mistake on the test. The student........feeling embarrassed/angry........might tell his or her friends that the "teacher basically said that I was stupid." Although that wasn't the case.
My advice to you: Don't believe everything that you hear. Trust me....I've even seen adult co-workers tell their peers that "The boss said this thing about you." If you weren't there to witness the situation................don't dwell on it. Dwelling on the issue will solve nothing. Instead.........make POSITIVE use of your energy. Focus on studying, paying attention, doing better in that class. And if you end up doing well.........it would be interesting to see how that friend AND teacher behave towards you. If your friend becomes jealous of your progress.......something ain't right. And if your teacher becomes impressed...........you'll prove him wrong and it might secretly humble him.
your post cleared out many things in my mind and i was thinking the same thing about my friend lying becuase i have just met this friend last semester so not really have a bond and i believe i should go and pay full attention and also not get too involved with my friend
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Zazzy........I'll tell you an example of a true story.
There were two teachers at a school. Let's call them Teacher A and Teacher B. The principal was very happy with teacher A.......and was hoping that she'd teach the following year as well. But she decided to leave to puruse higher education. Teacher B, on the other hand, did not fare to well. The principal was briefly contemplating assigning Teacher A to to teach B's students cuz he felt she was more capable.
Teacher B........tells Teacher A..........."Oh the boss only decided to assign you my students because he knows you'll be easily manipulated......bla bla bla."
See what I mean? Even adults play devious games like this where they fabricate stories. You yourself have said that your don't know this friend very well. So, don't rush to trust her. It's very possible that she's feeling really bitter about her grade........and wants to bring others down as well.
And even if your teacher did say that about you........you have no proof. Just concentrate on doing well. Ace that class..........prove your teacher wrong........humble him if he's guilty...............and see how supportive this "friend" is toward your success. ;)
No more dwelling. Start working harder. Best wishes :)
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If this is a college professor, I'd go thru the class, and finish it in one piece.
Then once the class is over, confront them.
They'll deny it if its true anyway, but at least they might feel a bit ashamed and not do it again.
Pretty unprofessional.
But yeah, your friend could have made it up.
Just keep moving through the class as if you never heard the comment. Your friend might just be trying to make you do poorly by creating some tension.
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if she was a true friend she wouldn't have told you that he said you were a loser. Whatever someone says behind your back, if someone else tells you those hurtful things, they are not a friend.
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I got a perfect on an exam many eons ago when I think I was in grade 9 in Pakistan... when we came back from summer vacation, first day back the relevant teacher asked me to stand up... I stood up, all happy and stuff expecting high praise... the teacher started by saying to the rest of the class that my success demonstrated what can be achieved through hard work and that if I could get a perfect, anybody could... this despite the fact that that subject had always been my strength and I'd always done well in his course...
and then, there was the biology teacher at the same school who told a classmate that he would not amount to anything in life... and the guy went on to study at one of the most prestigious US business schools for undergrad, got a graduate degree from another top school and is now working for a top global finance organization.
moral of story... it could have been worse...
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^ Huh?
Myabe the teacher was what motivated the classmate to do better?
^ Huh?
Myabe the teacher was what motivated the classmate to do better?
That kind of negativity cannot be termed "motivation" in any sense of the word... even avoidance conditioning is somewhat of a better technique to get someone motivated. However, just like samb said, I've also seen and heard of such unprofessional behavior from teachers in Pakistan quite a bit.
To zazzy, I would just say - remember you are in control of your own reality...
so I would just ignore what the teacher allegedly said or your friend wanted you to believe he said. Just move on and give in your best.
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^ Not motivation from the teacher's end but on the student's own end....personal motivation
one of my friend had a bad quiz so she stayed behind late to talk to him and the teacher told her that you sit beside a loser that is why your marks are like this,
Maybe the teacher meant that if your friend is going to cheat, she should cheat in a way that she at least passes.....
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Study harder?
For your and your friend's sake.