If the roles are reversed, you have to go to the man’s house to see him. He has to prepare the tea and bring it on trolley in front of you and you get to judge his tea trolley performance at the end.
Re: Tea trolley haters, how would you like it
I don’t know about trolley performance, but if it was being gauged on tea serving basis. I’d go to the extent of pouring it all down in a saucer and help her drink it. 
People/Inlaws might think of me as the perfect ghulam, in the end though, I’d care less as long as I get to score me trophy wife. 