whats the best way to tell ur parents that u like a girl/boy and want to get married to him/her???
and yes i need the answer for myself 
hmmm, u might not know me. However, I have seen a change in ur stance on certain issues. :) Its good to be a bit flexible without loosing ur identity or compromising on your principles.
Talk to your mom first. Don't beat about the bush. Just tell her that you like somebody and that you would like to marry her. (however, its easier said than done)
Before getting your parents involved, I suggest you find out if the girl is really committed to you. Once that issue has been resolved, you can move forth by starting with the parent whom you connect with more. Now you've established a connection with the parent(s) you can tell them straight up rather than beating around the bush as LS mentioned. It could be a long battle, so don't lose hope : ) Keep us updated, will ya.
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thanx for the replies....
lost soul i have not changed my stance on anything....
if u think its about talking to girls, then i havent started that again from the time i stopped doing so....
i just like a girl, and thats normal for any human i guess....
Re: talking to parents…
hi 
firstly you have to decide which one you like GIRL or BOY
secondly tell ur decision to the parent u feel more closet to
Be Honest and straight forward! Get your ducks in line before you open your mouth.
do that after finishing your homework ... and make sure you get an A+ for your drawing class ... :--)
Excuse me, but "ducks in a row" and to "find out if the girl is really committed to you" are not something which Mr Mughal should be doing at this point. He has been clear time and again, on this forum, that talking to na-mehram girls is not something he approves of.
So, I suggest, he should first talk to his parents and find out how they will want to proceed, if Mr Mughal is to guide them to a girl who has taken his fancy. The approach should be pretty straightforward "Ammi, can I talk to you about something important" - after dinner works best.
After the proposal is accepted and required seriousness for the proposed marriage is established in both families, then the girl and Mr Mughal should talk to each other, obviously in the presence of a guardian to find out each others thoughts and ideas about life and beyond. If they click, they should proceed with the marriage, if not, they should break off the engagement. Ofcourse, there should be no physical contact, whatsoever, at anytime, before the nikah.
Its all very simple actually.
Ofcourse, if the direct approach is not feasible, then Mr Mughal can as easily do the indirect approach, and talk to his brother or sister (real sister, ofcourse) and ask them to put in a word to his parents. In case, he has no real siblings or do not wish to use their help, then trustworthy uncles and aunties (uncles preferably, as aunties can be na-mehram too, in some cases) will also be useful in this matter.
Faisal bhai, yeh Mughal sahab rishta daal rahay hain k Mughlia sultanate fatah kernay ka pooch rahay hain?. barra mushkil tareeqa bataya hay aap nay yaar.
Bhai.. Mughal saheb ke liyay tau yehi tareeqa theek hai.
Aap pochein, tau aap ko kuch aur bataya jaa sakta hai. :)
^–in donon ke ilawa bhi koi pooch sakta hai kia? :halo:
Mughal Bhai: Duaain :~)
:k: listen to Faisal. He’s wise.
waise, aww guys leave him alone. no teasing :nono: i think its sweet.
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*Originally posted by Faisal: *
Ofcourse, there should be no physical contact, whatsoever, at anytime, before the nikah.
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Faisal Bhai Jaan, zara Mughal sahab kay walid sahab ko ma'aloom honay deiN, theek thaak physical contact ho ga, nikah ki to naubat hi nahi aaye gee.
thanx everyone for the mashwara and the duaaein....
will keep u updated in whatsoever is the case....
i was planning to tell my mom on eid (bes time isnt it) and let her call the girl's elder sister and talk to her....
the sister can talk to the girl and ask her, and if it goes well, my dad can talk to her dad and settle the issue....
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*Originally posted by Faisal: *
If they click, they should proceed with the marriage, if not, they should break off the engagement. Ofcourse, there should be no physical contact, whatsoever, at anytime, before the nikah.
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physical contact????
faisal bhai thanx for the advice but i dont even think i'll go to talking to the girl in presence of any guardian....
and no engagement is considered....
i prefer direct "nikaah" and maybe a delayed "rukhsati"....
:)
Not to be nosy but I am kind qrius ... how did you come to like her?! Was it love at first sight? Does she study with you? Or was it an ilham from the All Mighty?
Allah app donooN kay liyay bitari ka sama'an karay! Ameen
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Not to be nosy but I am kind qrius ... how did you come to like her?! Was it love at first sight? Does she study with you? **Or was it an *ilham from the All Mighty?**
Allah app donooN kay liyay bitari ka sama'an karay! Ameen
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the comment in bold is enuff to make me think that ur question did not deserve an answer....
anyway its not love at first sight or any such thing....
character is more important to me than looks....
and btw i am a lecturer not a student :p
Chalo bhai, na batao! I hope things work out for you!
Since everyone already gave input..and you have already things planned..i just wanna wish you good luck. This so reminds me of my nikah time. I hope everything goes well for you inshaAllah :)