Talking about Birds and the Bees

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njgal February 10, 2012, 4:09pm 1

Borrowing from Cheegum’s Life1 thread.

So your child has been exposed to imagery or movie scene or just plain walked in the bedroom. So he/she has questions - how do you tackle the situation? What are the exact words do you use to help them understand the birds and bees.

Or use the good old desi method of ignoring it until they’ll figure it out themselves.

Muzna February 10, 2012, 4:12pm 2

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I was gonna post this......thanks njgal.

UZ February 10, 2012, 4:14pm 3

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Before your children come to know from another resources we should talk to our children.

njgal February 10, 2012, 4:25pm 4

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UZ I think most parents now recognize that we should but what do you say. For me the right words don't come out.

Le_Pakistan February 10, 2012, 4:26pm 5

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Oh the horror...

njgal February 10, 2012, 4:27pm 6

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and it's not bird and the bees it's questions like "Why is it usually that husbands are older than their wives?"

That's a loaded question right there.

UZ February 10, 2012, 4:29pm 7

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I talk to my daughter about everything and since my daughter is in 5th grade I am dealing with lots of things. And yes I did talk to her about some stuff.

njgal February 10, 2012, 4:32pm 8

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do you wait for her to ask you or do you "lets talk about something conversations"

UZ February 10, 2012, 4:47pm 9

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She asked me some questions because some friend of her told her somethings and I had to patiently explain to her. And I did told her that you can ask me any question you want its your age, but remember if some one talks in front of you about some stuff just tell them I am not interested in listening and talk to another friend. And if you have some curious questions just ask me.
I bought her book from "Barnes & Nobles" all about American girl something like that.

TLK February 10, 2012, 5:00pm 10

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could you please stop scaring me ..

Note to self: buy a lock for bedroom door

TLK February 10, 2012, 5:02pm 11

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On the contrary, my daughter was shocked the other day cause her teacher or fried told her that her father is younger than her mother, and she was like "dad, how could that be possible"

Niksik February 10, 2012, 5:07pm 12

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They’ve seen kissing scenes in Harry Potter . We’ve tried shutting their eyes, but don’t think they are foolish. And do you think they don’t talk about this stuff at school?

So, when they ask, I tell them. If they don’t ask, I keep my mouth shut.

So far, this is what has come my way:

Why do women have those things? What are they for?
Do you have to be married to have children? Why?
Why do moms and dads need to sleep together?

njgal February 10, 2012, 5:29pm 13

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I was scarred for life :/ well just a couple months. eww.

automne77 February 10, 2012, 7:17pm 14

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On the subject of birds and bees, at what age do you not have kids watching any kissing scenes?

Usually the TV has either PBS kids or some other kid channel or pakistani dramas but occasionally I like to watch sitcoms like Big Bang theory and they do have some kissing scenes, my kid is 19 months old. Should I be covering his eyes or changing the channel at this age?

TLK February 10, 2012, 7:19pm 15

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I dont even want to know what you are tryin to say here.

Reidi_gul February 10, 2012, 7:48pm 16

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I dont think that ignoring is the best option for the sake of childs own safety. Even though i have a 4 year old we have frequent conversations about how some parts of his body are private and no body is allowed to see or touch them except mommy or daddy and that too only when they are helping him wash or change. and we will carry on these discussions to the actual topic of sex and what is acceptable and what is not acceptable with time and age.
There was a recent incident in our social circle between a 13 year old boy and 5 year old girl and what saddened me more was instead of accepting the responsibility the parents of the boy blamed the girl.
We need to equip our kids to deal with such kind of situations.
These days the biggest question in our house is why is my belly so big and would it pop. His mind is unable to accept that there can be a baby inside mommys belly.