How do you deal with teh type of people who NEVER take responsibility? for anything? EVER?
Like…let’s say there’s soeone who is NEVER on time. yet they always have a valid excuse that makes sense…but once you think about it, and go over it in your head, its like.. “hold on, they are always blaming someone else.”
Or if someone is always blaming their situation/life/relationship for why tehy cannot do you a favor or show up on time, or anything.
I know that we should be more tolerant and understanding but where do you draw the line? how much can you tolerate? If i know someone is in a particularly bad situation for the moment, I can understand, but for others…it seems like a life long thing…
you just kinda come to expect that from them ... and sometimes you pint it out that buddy ur never on time ... and nxt time they are late u just ask them wat happend this time ... was ur tire flat or did you run into traffic again ...
Depends on who this is. If it’s the spouse then you can sit down, in front of the fireplace, with 2 hot cocoas with marshmallows (halal) floating on top, some cocktail nuts, a rose, and saying: “hon, let’s never bl;ame each for anything. I love you and you love me and together we will fill in for each other.”
If it’s the MIL, you sit next to her, give her some chai and a samosa, and tell her, “ammijaan, pata hai, mey bhi soch rahi thi ki woh meri ghalati thi…lekin ainda mey khayal rakhoon gi…”
its not easy to teach any adult how to behave. they must learn thru consequences.
if its not being on time that is the prob. next time giv that person wrong time like an hr b4.
just dont ask or expect from that person to do u a favor or fullfill the responsibility...i have a very close person like that in my (inlaw) family .. a person like that is not credible at all and in my opinion is a big liar
It really depends on the person, Sara. If I'm having an issue with my best friend...the woman who is truly my sister even though we don't share blood...I'll tell her bluntly. She would do the same for me. It's one of the things I really appreciate about our relationship. She doesn't take it as an insult or an attack on her character...she (and I) takes it for what it is, which is her best friend pointing out a legitimate issue which needs to be considered before it becomes a bigger problem.
But then there are those people who never want to consider the problem through any perspective but their own, who will never admit their faults even though they give lip service to the idea of "I'll take responsibility for my own actions" and will completely explode if you so much as suggest they aren't perfect. For the sake of your own sanity and health, slowly back away from these people and let them continue with their idiocy. They'll eventually hang themselves with their own rope, unfortunately.
