Taking care of moms

[Desi_BeauTii]

@libranrulz

Nikki … its a pretty good topic that you’ve brought up and something that i have seen creating some issues … i have my dadi living with us for the past 8 months or so and since my mom can’t really do much work around the house(cuz of her health issues) there hasn’t really been the whole power sharing thing that you’re mentioned but there is a potential of issues coming up … one of the things that i have noticed personally is that these elder ladies want more to be involved than just see things around them happening … like for example if you are planing on cookin something then just tellin that aunty/ammi i’m planing on makin xyz wat do u think or are u ok with it … and i can bet you 9/10 times they’ll say yes and your schedule is not gonna be essed and yet that just makes them feel alot important that their input is still appreciated … another thing that i noticed is that with my dadi shez more open with me stying out late than my mom … wat makes her really happy is if i tell her that dadi ammi i’m going out i’ll be bak in xyz time and even if i take longer shez just happy that i cared enough to let her kno too along with my parents that i’m goin out and even if my parnets get upset that i’m late she tries to dissolve the situation … or if i buy something i come bak and show it to her and ask her wat she thinks … she might not like something i got but if i say that ahh dadi ammi i really like it but if u don’t like it i’ll go return it she won’t let me return it but it just makes her so much more happier … or lastly if i ask her once in a while dadi ammi yeh khane ka mood hai bana dein gi aap please and she’ll be so happy that she is still useful around hte house and ppl actually want something from her … or if i take her for a drive or if i’m goin to grab something quick i take her iwth me it just makes her day … so basically wat i’m tryna say is that try to just make them more involved … get their input on things … i can bet u 9/10 times they are gonna go with wat ur saying and telling them is not gonna change any of your plans but just ask them in a way that makes them feel that their input is still required and it just makes it so much more easier

MashAllah you have such a precious relationship with your dadi! Very good advice as well!