OK, so many people have to get some sort of mentorship or guidance on issues in life in general...such as marital problems, children realted situations, etc...
You can go to licensed and trained counselors, very readily available these days.
My question is, would it matter that a personal with multiple failed marriages is counseling you on how to live a happy married life? Or a person who had a terrible relationship with her mom is guiding on how to deal with a similar issue? Is professional training in that area sufficient or life experiences important as well?
It depends if the person has learned from his/her failiure or was on right side in that situation.
Sometimes relationship fail due to one persons continuous bad behaviour and other person want to live or have a good relationship. That doen't make that person failiure.
It might be that person even on the wrong side but learned from his mistake or failed relationship.
It doesn't depent on the person or personality it depends on his advice. If his advice is good then his failiure doesn't matter or affect.
How have dealt with the similar situation can understand better all the situation and give better resolution or solution but again it depends on his learning, thoughtfulness and side he was in wrong or right both matters.
Therapists and counsellors have to have a certain amount of therapy themselves whilst they are in training before they are allowed to give others 'advice'.
professionals are better as their emotional hormones usually play little or no role in their advices and opinions [unbiased]. a non-professional will make a chucha look like a saand if he/she got something against the poor-chucha.
Well, because of their negative experiences, people do understand problems better and sometiming learn sometimes from them.
People who never had real problems at all in their life, can't often understand what it's like to have those difficulties, even though they try. But someone who has been through something awful and/or sad can understand you better in some ways.
I think it depends on the advicers character as well, you know, the way they understand your problems, how they interpreet what you're saying and if they are from a different culture, do they understand your problems, can they understand your problems?
It's often said that womens worst enemies are sometimes other women. Is that what you mean? Or maybe something like some, not all, but just some mother-in-laws who were treated badly by their own inlaws later treat their own children-in-law badly? You mean it in that way?
No I mean a person with mutiple failed marriages might have had bad luck and it might not be their fault, so it wouldnt be completely wrong to get advice from them.
i might consider advice from a person in similar situation.coz they know wat u r going thru.also a person with failed relationship can tell u where he went wrong n wat mistakes u can avoid.also these professional experts r more neutral n detacthed so mostly talks more theory than practical.but if u can afford n r in critical situation its worth trying it.