First of all i’m not married but i’ve been to tons of weddings from lots of different cultural backgrounds so i think I have more than enough to say when it comes to these functions. Not all indian lenghas are cheap looking and i’ve seen plenty of indian bridal outfits who look better than many pakistani gowns, and who do you think started the trend of wearing white on valimas? it was because indian brides wanted to blend the western bride idea and started wearing white bridals to their wedding receptions. Eventually the pakistani women took note and followed. that is poser like, but why knock it? sometimes borrowing customs and blending different cultures makes for great weddings and lol cute kids! 
Also i’ve never seen guests walking around in polyester wedding clothing, much less a bride or groom it tends to be silk even for net lenghas its silk underneath. i would not be able to find a polyester outfit here in houston unless it was a dancing costume but most moms want their kids in silk, banarsi, banidini like fabrics.
In your opnions then sleeveless pakistani clothing, muslim women wearing saris showing their stomachs and low cut blouses in the front and back, the trend of these newer frock like dresses that are a play from arabic kaftans are all poserish. When you give a dua and the room participates they are wishing the couple well, but how many weddings have you been to that women are still gossiping during a regular guests’s speeches, toats, and duas? If it’s the molvi then everyone shuts up but if it’s not they just cackle on and on it’s quite rude. Like i said i hope someday people raise a toast to you so that you can realize they care, want to express what they feel in their heart and their good intentions for you, one should only be so lucky to have this at some point in their lives.
I have never been to an indian wedding where the turban looked like it was cheaply put together, infact i know how to wrap a turban because i competed in bhangra competition for years and our boys chose to wear real ones rather than the fake costumed ones. So i believe i’m a good judge of how a turban ought to look, anyhow this whole paki guys wearing turbans are taken from gasp hindu culture oh no maybe that means paki men wearing turbans are GASP posers!!!
So is that why you think djs are tacky? because music is haram in islam and it’s a muslim wedding so why hire one and bring shaitaan in the room? lol a wedding is a lot better and lively when the music is upbeat, festive and fun. it gives people more energy and they clap louder as the cake cuts (then again you probably hate the idea of a wedding cake bc it’s a western custom). also it’s needed because weddings become a circus so having the dj announce who should go to the stage and line up to take pictures with the bride and groom lets the guest enjoy time eating rather than standing in line and grinding their teeth everytime family members jump infront of them and take a million pictures. Also if you have good music and the food was sub-par it kinda makes up for it. I’d hate to go to a wedding with no music or just crap music in general it’s no fun.
Umm I’m from texas, maybe you didn’t get that but i think that’s obvious because my signature even says don’t mess with texas. maybe you’re right, i don’t have the money to go to nice restaurants, my friends only throw parties at chilis, t.g.i.fridays, olive garden, and savoy…darn. My company never takes us out, i never have business luncheons or dinners, we don’t have a holiday party. My american friends get married in backyards with picnic tables, or cafeteria’s of their church. I go to ny and visit family but sadly I never go to nicer places, i eat kosher hot dogs and pizza everyday. I just live such a pathetic life. You sound like a proper snob to say thing about jackson heights because i think we can all agree some of the best desi food comes from the mom and pop places that aren’t spending all their money on decor, and gaudy chandeliers. I’m sorry i don’t think non upscale restaurants are beneath me but it doesn’t mean i don’t get out. Actually i had a good time an indian fashion show at EARTH NYC some years back and met aditi goviktrar or howeer you spell her name. I could go on and list places i’ve been to and reccommend and other places that were over priced and hyed but i’d rather not because that would make me proud and shallow. On a realistic note going to non desi weddings their receptions are held at beautiful restaurants in town or upscale hotels that don’t allow outside desi catering (cooks have to teach the hotel’s catering staff how to replicate dishes and work the night under the hotel’s chef) and plenty of times even with assigned seating at white ppl’s weddings the napkin is in the glass. Also it’s great to have a napkin in the glass because pakistani guests dont listen to assigned seating rules. so when you jump from table to table or move your seat to let another aunty sit closer to your mom and you reach a seat if the napkin is still in the glass you know for sure no one has touched it, or drank from it. there for it’s all yours. I can’t tell you how many times i’ve been to weddings where the napkins were either on the plates or on the left and if water has been served you never know if anyone had previously sat there and had a sip from the glass and jumped tables. So i prefer it this way for my own peace of mind.
Naaths are cute when small like i said when it’s big it creates a red dot or red and white dots on the girls face mouth or by it’s side which looks like a herpes blister…esp if the guests take pics bc ur avg digital camera will make it appear that way.
Someone mentioned the dots above the eyes well i find that beautiful on some people, once again this is a religious thing and we shouldn’t knock cultural or traditional religious things. that’s my friend, notice her mandap background is of nice material, mandap creations of houston is the best wedding decorators in all of texas hands down. not only for desi occasions and are known as one of the best in america. his sherwani and turban is not tacky, her outfit is the tradtional gujurati whtie and red bridal sari. she’s a simple girl in general and her dots above her eye brings out her gujurati bridal radiance. nothing tacky about being cultured.
you hate baraats that are singing loudly and dancing bc they are happy? man you’re a downer i feel bad for anyone attending your future parties as i’m sure you feel the same way towards me.
I think we will have to agree to disagree and that’s okay. people are different i can see we def. have different opinions and to each their own. Take care, and once again i really hope someone gives a heartfelt toast to you lol.