Why are we living under susrali mashra?
What are they ways to diffuse susrali culture?
Why is one man so weak to stand on right side?
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Simple. Susrali Muashra doesn't practice sunnah. Culture doesn't practice sunnah. And if you bring this up to a witchy MIL or nand....some might be shamed into correcting their mistakes while others will fume and become witchier. That's because the latter group wants to follow ego instead of sunnah. They've only confined deen to namaz roza and sar pe dupatta lena....but not ikhlaq.
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^So true..and fella gets emotional blackmail by his own parents sometimes. Hey..it does happen. Very sad world..we are living in. I have observed that women..be it sis in law, mom in law..and sometimes daughter in law (very rarely) steers trouble by playing politics with each other. Guy gets dragged in the middle..so susrali ma'ashra is cruel..
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I dont think so mashra kafi susrali hogya hy tabhi zarori hy, mashaAllah bhut sary ghar meiny dekhein hain they are living with susral happily and feel like happy my sister is an example Alhamdulilah, i never heard any complain from her, it all depends kahan rights per mamla chal raha or kahan.duties sar anjam di.jarahi hain, role of two people is important a wife and husband if their bonds are strong then nothing can effect the relation InshaAllah!!
Its my opinion
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I don't know the background of Xtron's post in OP, but there is nothing absolutely right or wrong with ladies living with in-laws and there are reasons to it. Like taking care of aged parents by the men.
The only problem I see is negative reaction when a girl (being only child of her parents) wants to live with parents and then come the taboo word 'ghar jamai'.
Another surprising attitude we observe are the ladies who keep on crying their dukhRas about behavior from in-laws, but when they are pointed out same dukhRa by their bhabhis, they take sides of myaka 'meri amma / behn aisa kar hi nahin sakti'.
Though the things have started changing. Many communities (like Memon; not hamare wale) now themselves prefer that Bahu and beta live separately.
Interestingly, when we talk about Sunnah on this issue, we forget that Arab culture was affected by tribal customs and there it was an established norm even before the Prophet (SAW), where married couple generally lived separately from parents. This has not been the same with our part of the world following agrarian based custom and culture.
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What is Susrali muashira?
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What is Susrali muashira?
New term for societies where there still exist tradition of joint family system.
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New term for societies where there still exist tradition of joint family system.
I think with the economic pressures its becoming difficult for people to survive on their own
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I think with the economic pressures its becoming difficult for people to survive on their own
quite true, economics really contributed to deterioration of our values to accommodate others.