Re: Supportive husband
Thanks Echt. It took me a long time to finally end up with the person I want to be with so I want to make sure I do everything right. We’re imperfect humans so marriage won’t always be perfect. As long as you have a positive attitude and common outlook you can get through difficult times. It’s like before the 1992 world cup Imran Khan was told by others that you’re not going to win but in the end the team won. I was too young back then but that is what i’ve heard. Marriage duo of husband/wife is like a cricket team and marriage is probably similar to a world cup tournament. Some days you win and some days you don’t. Every time you should aim to win the final and at the very least you will come second. If you lose, you pick up the pieces and learn from your mistakes for next time. You have to gather your morale and make sure you know your team philosophy. Sometimes you’ll be the captain and sometimes you can be vice depending on what the situation is. If both of you are a team you have to best utilise your talents. Some people are batters, others bowlers and some are all rounders.
If your wife is an all rounder and can handle both work and home responsibilities, why would you stop her? Why would you put her lower down the order when she is better higher up. That would be to disadvantage of the team. If she’s more a batter and you’re an all rounder then that’s fine as well. At the end of the day the selectors, i.e. the in laws, will have their biases but the primary team and the captain/vice have to make the main decisions. They can ask them for advice but best not to rely completely on them. If the team falls apart who is mostly blamed? In the final when Pakistan played England they worked as a cohesive unit with Imran Khan and Javed Miandad playing key roles. Obviously England were the meddling aunties/extended relatives. Before meeting them in an encounter you have to come up with some strategies discussed together for what they might throw at you. Don’t be on the defensive but confidently play on the offensive against their attack. Look through that old shaadi video footage of who the main players are so you have strategies to combat them. They might do some dirty sledging and play on your mind but you have to find ways around that. Don’t fall into mental disintegration. In the end you want to be picking up that golden trophy not them. That glory is meant for you. You have to let them know that their meddling place is secondary to the primary team. If it’s a friendly match, they are a friendly team and it is not a world cup you don’t have to have such a hostile approach. Just depends on the situation.