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life is not about being successful & on top, coz then you miss the pleasures of life. like.. for example.. hmm.. sleeping under the Eifel tower with people from around the world.. or Venice at 5:30am is an unforgettable place, so nice so empty. you should be successful enough that it won't starting to eat your life.
peace.
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just my way of looking at things…
I’m not being materialistic but material has a role to play in our lives.
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again. 
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Too much of anything is bad
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What if the richest one turns out to be a miser!? 
I believe usually richest guys are way too careful with their money.
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the one with the Big wallet shall get you diamonds for your birthday,if he remembers that is.
the sweet one shall get you flowers and a cake for your birthday,every year,same day,maybe even the same time!
will you be happy when you get diamonds when you ask for them?or happy when you get flowers even before you wish for them?
happy with a vacation to malay,s'pore,paris on the bussiness class once an year?or happy with weekend bbq trips to the lake near your place?
do what ever makes you happy!
hollywood or bollywood?:p
on a serious note,i came across such a proposal,goal driven part which i liked actually.
but after saying no(due to several reasons),the guy sent a message saying...'you have Wasted 6 months of mine,do you know how important they are to a man at my age?'(around 29/30 he was)
i was like,i guess 6months are nothing compared to a lifetime decision.
im glad i said no:)
he'd be comparing the time he gave me and to his work etc all the rest of me life then!phew
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two extremes. so neither.
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If these are the only choices, the sweet person seems better. What one really needs in life is a roof over ones head, food and clothing. If you have enough of these and aren't starving to death half naked on the streets, then life is fine. From what I understand the sweet person can provide that (I haven't read all pages, so I might have missed some additional info on both choices) and make his wife happy at home by being there for her and both doing nice things, having nice conversations, etc. He's be thinking about her feelings too instead of only being selfish.
The other person, if he really only cares about his career and is willing to sacrifice even his family, his childeren his love, then what use is it to have such a husband and father for your children if he isn't there for you all most of the time because his real love is just his work and in fact money? Sure, you'll have more than normal clothes, you'll have plenty, too many even at a certain stage, you'll have more than enough food and can buy any villa or mini palace you like, but other than these material things, life will be empty.
If you want a relationship, then choose the persoon who seems to have a better balance of everything. Of course you won't find the perfect person. You have to give and take something in relationships. They're about accepting some traits of the other which seem negative to you and giving something up from your side too for the other. Not saying that you should give everything up and he nothing or that you should accept every negative habit, but find a balance in that with him.
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Super Righteous...Super Successful and Super Sweet will follow automatically! If you don't believe me, believe Qur'an.
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Let me translate it for your girls. What would u like to do
A) Romance with hubby in 1 bedroom rental apartment after eating daal roti and getting tired due to washing dishes with Ajax and scotch brite
OR
B) Browsing GS on your iPAD lying down on cozy Italian Leather sofa in your mansion after having 3 course dinner while you hubby works in his home office. This is all while maid is cleaning the dishes
PS: On serious note, it depends on girl's personality more than anything else.
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lolz..this made sense!
pretty much infact!
today i feel like choosing a super $$$ banda:hypo:
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According to my understanding success comes from ones destiny it does not matter how eager they are to get it or how laid back ... some people inherit good luck and others fight not always do they manage to hold on to success either ...
When it comes to being sweet according to my understanding many people can very quickly lose their sweetness when it comes to pressure and external factors and sweetness will not stop them being other things as well ... such as flirtatious for example ...
Bigboi did hint on it - righteousness ... now how can we measure that?
See which of the two are more charitable ... that is by proportion of their wealth not by total amount ... a poor person giving $50 is better than a rich one giving $100 if their relative earning power is more than twice the amount apart ...
See which of the two can keep a secret
See which of the two can uphold your trust
These are more important than the two factors mentioned ... which in my opinion are only faces that have been shown to you and the reality may be quite different in different situations.