Both are educated and fairly attractive.
But the difference between them is that one is really driven and goal oriented whereas the other is just a plain old sweetheart.
Which one would you choose?
(this is not about me but the concerned party will be reading this thread)
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all other factors equal?
is the sweetheart unambitious or the goal oriented one isn't romantic or kind?
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Plain old sweetheart . . . he’ll be good in bed 
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goal oriented one is driven but he is all about himself. he just isn't the romantic type.
the sweetheart is okay when it comes to ambition. he doesn't have the same drive.
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sweetheart then.
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Success.
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So the goal oriented guy is really truly not romantic at all? Or...are you just guessing that a goal oriented guy would not be romantic? Because it could be argued that if the guy's goal is to get the girl....then he could depend upon romantic acts to help him acheive that and even maintain that goal. Goal-oriented people don't necessarily have to be self-centerd.......but if this particular guy does have this quality.....then it's a relationship killer.
You say the sweetheart is "okay" with ambition. The word "okay" implies average ambition.....that's not so bad. It's not the same as being a lazy bum or a couch potato. It can even be argued that since he's a "sweetheart"..........he'd be more considerate about how his actions or lack thereof will affect his spouse/family (loved ones in general). That said....this considerate nature COULD motivate him to strive for the best for his wife/family. That's another way of looking at it.
But if someone is self-centered to the extent that they lack consideration for others......I don't think such a person would know how to communicate in a healthy way with their SO...as that involves an open-mind, being able to listen, compromising, etc. If you can't do that...that can break trust. It's an issue that can lead to other problems and prevents a healthy relationship from taking place.
So, if I had to pick...I'd go with the sweetheart.....unless he's sickeningly sweet. Chipkoos are not cool.
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Here's another thought that just came to mind. By saying that the first guy is not romantic at all......what does that mean? I think that romance requires consideration/sensitivity/and some spontanaiety..........so does that he mean he's devoid of these qualities?
I'm just wondering why would a person seriously consider a guy who is uber goal-oriented, but lacks sensitivty/consideration? Is it because you're more interested in what that highly ambitious nature can get for you? In that case, would you be putting a greater emphasis on materialistic things (that a highly ambitious nature can achieve) than on the quality of the relationship itself?
The person whom this situation deals with...and who will be reading this thread....needs to think about what weighs more to them.
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Which one do you enjoy talking to? Whose company is better?
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i m impressed with your writing style.
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if i were concerned party I select goal oriented. life is tough and it becomes tougher with time and age. i read some weird comment talking about good in bed which is really weak argument.
if guy is proceeding for rishta, its mean he definitely has feeling for his potential SO. I believe many goal oriented guys are more romantic than sweethearts.
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Okay so here is what it is:
Goal oriented guy is romantic as long as its about him. I think she means he's a bit selfish.
The sweetheart is very nice but at times gets a little emotional.
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Okay so here is what it is:
Goal oriented guy is romantic as long as its about him. I think she means he's a bit selfish.
The sweetheart is very nice but at times gets a little emotional.
I've dealt with very emotional guys....they can be annoying. But if he's only like that "at times" (which is what you said)....then that's not so bad...cuz it's not happening often. It's not as bad (IMO) as someone who is selfish.
And how can a woman fully enjoy the romance when she well aware that he's mainly into himself. Forget romance...how can you even enjoy the company of someone like that? This situation is just more problematic than the other.
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No super man is good.
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Successful but kindly keep it in your mind that Success doesn't come to you - you need to go to it :)
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And no wonder they say '' Behind every successful man is a surprised woman '' :D
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I’d pick success since overtly romantic/sweet guys can be annoying and a little cringe-inducing. 
Super sweet
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depends on the type of person you like/are.
change is constant, success is there one day, not there the next. more important would be optimism, ambition, positivity, willingness to work hard
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The richest one.