Super Confused

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AOA everyone hope you all have been doing well. as most of you know my marriage issues and what happened a few months earlier and how i broke down the way my husband married another woman chosen by his mom just coz they declared me crazy or whatever. well i was broken totally but just because of Allah and all your prayers i took proper medications and keeping myself busy with my son i moved on with my life accepting realities and that he was nothing but a mamas puppet. i visited my friend in london when i got a msg from my husband saying he wants to talk to me etc i ignored it and never replied after a few weeks i came back with my son and at 2am my guard called me saying mam sir wants to come inn should i let him in i allowed and the min he came inside he fell in my feet like a beggar and was crying like a child i said excuse me my son is sleeping please stop he said i lied to u i was a fool i hurt you i deserve death like a rock i stood Allah made me so strong that min i just said well go beg in front of Allah and stop creating a scene here u did what u did now leave me alone he pulled out a gun and like a lunatic said shoot me i don’t deserve to live u luved me and just because u weren’t well my mom brainwashed me and i ended up screwing u over please baby i cant live from the past few months i cant sleep i cant stop thinking about u and even when i sleep i see u in my dreams baby just give me one chance i left her i told her Mehru is the woman i will always luv and i will die i cant carry on like this. my mom has gotten against me but baby i don’t care i luv u and that’s it i was a fool i thought things will be sorted but i cant live without u baby please forgive me. i just calmed him down but my son woke up and he said u are my family i cant hurt u anymore. i told him look i need time its not easy for me to forget what happened etc. since that day he drinks every night and stays outside my house like the way it happens in movies and keeps on calling me till i ans the phone and when i do the lunatic behavior. he sleeps the whole day and doesnt go to work even our common friends are calling me to take him to a session with some physicist. i cry every night looking at him this way as he was a very strong man and now its like he has become a desperate woman i really dont know how to deal with it i luv him but hmmmm am so confused. please advise

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take him to counselling if you can.
be careful not to make any commitments as yet.
if he truly is repenting then he needs to show that he can be a constructive and contributing member of your family. he hasn't done this.

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This is almost Bollywood like just with poor vocabulary and over dramatising the situation.

You should give him the stick he doesn't deserve a bloody carrot.

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Nurse: DOCTOR WE'RE GOING TO NEED A HIGHER DOSAGE, THE WOMAN HAS GONE COMPLETELY MAD!

Doctor: Oh god what has she done

Nurse: In her delusional world she thinks she ended up on top

Doctor: THAT'S IMPOSSIBLE!?!

Nurse: Doc there is more, she thinks her husband came begging to her feet, but in reality he's finishing up his walima with his 21 year old new improved wife

Doctor: I dare not say it, but we're going to need to do some electroshock therapy, that's the only hope

Nurse: Alright everything is ready

Doctor: We're going to need a the lightning bolt of all lightning bolts

"SOUND OF THUNDER"

Doctor: ohhh god OHH GOD NOOO!!!

Nurse: She has become even more delisional and thinks her husband has given her a gun and now wants her to kill him

Doctor: Give me the Valium *injects Valium" that'll keep her calm for 2 hours

PLEASE WAIT FOR PART 2

OP as a sidenote please, for the love of god improve your grammatical skills, reading that was like trying to identify the body of burn victim.

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^ nice.....very compassionate.

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^

I disregard most Canadians. BUT you know Canaadaa is alreet.

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Wow. No words.

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I don’t really know what to say, but I suppose if he really cared so much he would go and get the help himself and show you the comitment again to you and your son. Have you tried telling him this?

May Allah give you strength and show you the right path. Ameen. I wish you all the best sister. :flower1:

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baby you sound like female version of awais lovely :(

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if you love him that much...take him to counseling.

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seriously?

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he is getting punished by god now ..

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This man is clearly very unstable mentally. WTF is he doing bring a gun in the house knowing your son is there?!! Do NOT allow him back in your house again for your son's sake.

The following is a true story. I'm not making this up at all. One of my dad's best friend, Pakistani man, was married to a white woman. They had 2 sons. The sons were around 4 and 9. When I was in high school, they moved to a different state. Few months after they moved, my dad one day got a call saying that his friend and the 2 sons were dead. In the next few months....details of what happened emerged. Apparantly the friend and his wife were having serious marital problems behind closed doors. His wife was about to leave him. He had also begged her to stay but she had made up her mind. About a week before this happened, the wife had told him that she was taking the 2 sons and moving in with her parents. On the day of the deaths, the wife woke up in the morning, came downstairs and saw her husband sitting on the couch watching TV. She thought nothing and went into the shower. After the shower, she came downstairs again and saw her husband sitting on the touch...this time he had a gun in his hand and she saw blood. She asked him WTF he was doing and he didn't say anything. She ran to the room that the sons shared. Both the boys were shot dead in their beds. She then heard a shot...ran back in the living room....and her husband was laying there dead. Absolutely true story....I knew those 2 boys since the day they were born. My dad had been friends with this man for over 15 years....a perfectly "normal" man. My dad told me he even spoke to the guy a few days before this and the guy seemed totally normal.

Your husband is actually displaying signs of being unstable. His behavior is already unpredictable. He also has access to guns. For your son's sake....stay away from him. You and your son's safety needs to be your #1 priority right now. Please don't take any chances.

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agree with muzna and paheli !

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wow

tell him
if he can't be stable and get a job
you won't forgive him

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if this is indeed true - punish him, do not go back to him ever

if he is disrupting your daily life, call the police

this is my opinion

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You should have killed him and should have pleaded self defense , he was in your home anyway.
What a moron , he has ruined his life and now he is trying to ruin your life again.
If he give you three talaq in that divorce paper , you cannot take him back and you cannot allow him to come into your home.
He belongs to a mental asylum. There is very famous one in Lahore call them they will take care of him.

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well u have to gv him a second chance because he the father of ur son,take him to the doctor ortherwise it will be too late,things are on ur side,now its up to u how u handle things....after he gets welll from his current situation,you both can talk and sort things out calmy...ask him why he married on the will of his mum....and if he dosen't satisfy u,then its up to u to leave him or to be wid him...

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He wont do all of this again? The guy is tripping and its illegal to have a gun in the UK BTW!

Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me....baby!

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:k: … a lot of people are unaware of the signs of mental health issues.

This man has major issues.