I was just thinking the other day -about people who suffer from depression.I actually have a friend…who tried to commit suicide.A lot of times when friends tell us that they are feeling depressed…or life is just not working out for them…we tend to tell them to grow up.I actually told my friend that there were people who were worse off.
Most people who seriously consider suicide do not want to die. Rather, they see suicide as a solution to a problem and a way to end their pain. People who seriously consider suicide feel hopeless, helpless, and worthless. A person who feels hopeless believes that no one can help with a particular event or problem. A person who feels helpless is immobilized and unable to take steps to solve problems. A person who feels worthless is overwhelmed with a sense of personal failure.
I started working with people who suffered from depression .The truth is that few individuals are single-minded in their decision for death; many are asking for help even as they approach the final act. But suicide threats should always be taken seriously. My question is ,have you guys been in such situations where you / or a friend suffers from depression- and have suicidal thoughts.Did you take it seriously?
yes I was suicidal about 3 4 months ago. Then I found basanti, and my life changed forever...
ok honestly though.. yes I,ve thought about suicide ...I was very very depressed a few months ago but I guess its never really an option,, my reason was my family... so I never actually gave it very serious thought,, but yes I have thought about it. You think stupid things when you are depressed. Not a good feeling to be in.
sometimes i go thru depression spells.. but not to an extent of suicide.. i guess its understandable that it might seem a way out.. but in reality its not.. becasue problems that may seem huge at the moment will soon be forgotten or atleast put behind..
i hhave a friend who was really depressed cuz of a special someone who she wanted to marry an couldnt cuz of haalat.. an her depression seriously took a toll on her body but u kno.. she accepted the fact that its not gonan happen an shes moving on an shes actually happy .. at that time.. she thoguth how will life ever go on.. but i think ppl forget life ka masla hi yehi hai.. it goessss onn....
ahh.. been through several really bad depressions.. for stupid reasons now that i think about it.. thank God i am over all that now.. i did think about sucide couple of times.. never told anyone how i was feeling.. there was a time when.. well.. i even bought the pills.. but never had the courage to go through it i guess.. khair.. life is all good :k: and yes it does go on..
I suppose a lot of people think about suicide at one point or another...when they get extremely depressed.But isnt it true that often we dont take people seriously- when they tell us that they are going to kill themselves?
Suroor thanks for your honesty.And I hope things keep getting even better for you.Kake thats what depression is all about...thinking stupid things.But it should be taken seriously....
ravage then what is a person to do in such a siutation?
I have never thought about suicide, thank Allah. I have always felt there is light at the end of every dark tunnel, even if the tunnel seems long.
However I have had a couple of friends mention to me they have thought about it, and I do take their statements very seriously. But usually its the case that they have thought about it in the past, although once or twice it was a "present" feeling. I do believe as you mentioned, that they are asking for help, and should be given it, if not by you then by another.
Yup, a friend of mine is suicidal I think. It's been kind of an on again off again thing with her..she basically jokes about it..but I somehow get the feeling she's probably not..I reallly dont' know what to tell her ...I just try to drill this into her head that suicide is not an option...:-/
I think my earliest attempt and thought of suiscide was at the age of 7 or 8...I thought no one cared really and if they did then they never showed it...but somehow whenever I've ever thought about it o gone to teh extent of trying it...ie. sitting on the ledge of the balcony I always remember some verse from the Holy Bible...it just comes to my head like God talking to me...
Once I wanted to walk into the sea...(no I can't swim)...just drown there...but then I heard in my head...I heard a voice tell me that I was sent to love..sent to worship the Almighty...forget any human...but I'd always have the love of God to share with others..I had been given that gift..to love...that was my mission...to share peoples pain and maybe in some cases take it on myself and replace it with love...
I guess what every person who ever thinks about suiscide should remember...that humans are imperfect..but God's love is perfect..you can always count on Him
i have had an opportunity to counsel students and was surprised to come across so many cases in which the student wanted to embrace suicide as a solution to his/her problems. one can tell if one is serious about committing suicide or is just venting out his/her frustation towards life in general. in either case, u should take him/her seriously.
Mee too… The circumstances were trying, but my way of thinking was wrong back then. I had isolated myself from my friends, and then felt all alone. So I bought the pills and took them too… I guess i didn’t take enough, or else I am tougher than I thought I was. I will never forget how horrible the feeling of immobility is. Somehow I found the will to survive. I know that I will never, ever do anything like it again. Life is tough, but death does not come easy.
Yes, life does go on. If you’re willing to accept and adapt to change, then it becomes easier.
When I come across someone who has suicidal inclination, I do take them seriously and encourage them to talk to someone, friend or professional. Without going into personal details, I try to convince them that suicide isn’t really a solution. I tell them to derive strength from faith. Sometimes a short trip or change of scenery helps. It clears your mind, and once you find the little things that make you smile, you know that you’re on the path of recovery.
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Yup, a friend of mine is suicidal I think. It's been kind of an on again off again thing with her..she basically jokes about it..but I somehow get the feeling she's probably not..I reallly dont' know what to tell her *...I just try to drill this into her head that suicide is not an option...:-/
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Nutz - most of the time, no one knows what to say or tell these ppl. but whats important is that u make that person feel loved and let them know that u care. there is some1 in this world that cares whether they live or die. and the next step is to find out what makes this person feel the way they do. what aspect of life is so stressful that they are willing to give up life.
in my opinion, most of the time just knowing that some1 cares whether they live or die...really helps!!!
and this is a topic that hits close to home. have had a friend that has always talked about it and attempted it several times in her own ways and survived.
i think sometimes, the attempts are made just to make the pain go away...
and as friends what we need to remember is that, no matter how little we feel the other person's problem is...it is still the biggest deal in the world for that person...so belittling their issues definitely does NOT help.
If I came across like I am insensitive to her feelings or her issues....well that couldn't be farther from the truth..and if I sounded too casual in my approach .. it's just coz of the way I am and the kind of relationship I have with her..we're always joking around..and trying not to take each other too seriously....and since she never discusses it directly with me or anyone...I can't really pin her down with it..but I DO make an effort to make her realize how special she is (not in so many words...:D...trust me if I say those words, she'll think I've gone nuts or something) ..and yup.. she has SO MUCH to offer to this world..really.......I think her frustrations come from her family...which is kind of disfunctional ...so i feel a li'l helpless since I cant change things there..but like you said..I guess i can definitely try to change her thought process...sighz...
anyway..I appreciate ur concern..I'm going to try to remember what you said next time I talk to her :)
Nutz - you definitely did not come across as being insensitive.
i know exactly what you mean. one of my best friends, thats how we talk about this subject 2, very lightly...but i know exactly what she means when she brings up the topic!
i guess she jus needs to know that ppl in this world still need her!
and i know its not a comfortable topic to talk about with friends...and we all do our best!!!
I was 17 when I wanted 2 commit suicide seriously 1st. That was da most depressing time I had, but when I think about it now, I say it was clumsiness.
A couple of months back, I was severely depressed & I wanted 2 end it all. I was thinking of various ways like standing in front of a speeding cruiser or just taking my car out @ full throttle & banging in2 a wall. Frustration was building up inside me, & occasionally it does.
I love a rap song "Suicide" which I sometimes listen 2.......NO I'm not sick, I'm just tryin 2 puke moi frustrations out.
Struggle & prayers. We just have 2 try. ALLAH helps those who help themselves.
You know interestingly enough thoses that think abot suiscide or even those who go through with it are those that have a LOT to offer to teh world..I'm not saying that others don't but that these people are a hell lot more talented than they think...
It like the devil KNOWS their potential but he tries to take away what's precious to them by filling their heads with ugly thoughts.
