Lets say you have a friend, a good friend, who likes a guy. Your friend is sure that this guy is the one for her. So sure that she has tried to do everything to convince him of this fact. He isnt so sure about her. Infact he realizes that his parents probably will not approve of her and so he breaks off the relationship. She becomes suicidal as a result. He takes her back, but soon realizes that he just doesn’t see her the same way she sees him. She tries to convince him again that she is the one for him. He breaks up with her again. Again, she becomes suicidal. He takes her back out of fear that she will hurt herself if he isnt with her.You are her friend, and you can see her depression. She jokingly suggests suicide with you, but the only reason you know she contemplated it is through another friend. You suggested seeing the school psychologist which she says she will do but never actually does. Her family also thinks she can be suicidal but she denies it and says they are completely wrong about her and that she would never contemplate suicide.
Here is the problem: She is not safe on her own. Several of her friends feel this way. She may be going to a different school next semester. You are her closest friend on campus. The guy is thinking of breaking up with her once she leaves the school. You feel she may do something drastic if he does.
What do you do? What do you advise the guy who doesn’t know what to do? You have already tried to tell her that life doesn’t end just because a relationship might.
The girl is non-muslim, so suggesting suicide is haraam isnt really going to work, especially since she denies even having such thoughts to you.
Minding your own business is difficult because she is a good friend.
this is insane! She needs to get her head straight up knowing that guy dont like her that way! its like a slap on one's face. Try to talk out with her. And tell that jerk to leave her alone totally. Its him who is basically feeding her high hope fr suicidal thoughts. If she tries again for suicide and he still dont come back ..then chances are she wont bother the next time for suicide!
She is very clever to use her suicide thing as a threat to bring him back to her. Guy shouldnt fall for it at all. Only thing possible is to make the guy totally disappear from her life and talk out with ur fren that this suicidal thing is not gonna get her anywhere.
guy is probably just using her for sex.shes gone too soft to realize that the guy is not sincere with her.if i were the guy i would'nt deceive her and would let her know what i really want.
This situation sounds so familiar. Anyway if i was her friend, i would tell her parents all about it right away. I would try to get her help and would ask the guy to tell her how he feels about the whole situation + even if she moves i would try to get her through this by visiting her on the weekends. If the situation gets worst, i would call 9/11 and tell them about her suicidal thoughts.
The question is whether it is intentional suicidal black mail or she is depressed. Two different scenarios, if this is a black mail than she seems sick in her head to use suicidal blackmail to get sympathies. You need to tell her up front that this kind of behavior is not nice where you intentionally put your friends, family and others responsible for your stupid ideas of suicide, heartbreak is tough but to decide you life on it completely insane.
If she is depressed than, be supportive and consult a specialist who knows what to do in these cases. There are people who help citizens with suicidal thoughts and depression. It is better to consult an expert.
He initially liked her, but realized after dating her for awhile that its probably not going to work, for whatever reason.
I have tried talking to her several times about the situation, that he just isnt for her, etc, etc. She wont listen. She does get depressed, and has low self esteem. I personally think the suicidal thoughts are due to depression and not to woo him.
The problem is that I do not talk to this guy anymore. I have a friend who talks to him, and that is how I found out about the whole suicidal threats thing. She wants to know from me what to tell the guy because he is very worried about her well-being, which is why he wont break up with her at this time. Infact he is trying to see if it may work because she keeps insisting that it will. But his friend whom I talk to, suggests he will break up with her most likely when she leaves. She wont be living close enough to me for me to visit her.
I dont know her parents contact info and I am afraid that if I contact them she will be very upset with me and it might trigger something if infact she wasnt even serious about the whole suicide thing.
She became very angry once when someone suggested she may be suicidal.
Munni
You can inform one of your teacher or the headteacher, they would observe, record and make the report regarding her behaviour, depression and suicidal thoughts, school psychologist and pastoral care teachers would also play their professional roles. They will immediately call the parents to keep their child safe from any kind of self-harm at home. All the procedures and measures taken, would be recorded in her school's personal profile that will accompany the child in each and every school.
Munni, you have so much drama in your life. All your friends seem to be in cruddy situations. Anyhow, here's my 2 cents, people who are going to commit suicide just do it, they don't go around talking about it.
IMO, she's just trying to get attention. She certainly sounds like she needs help and that you should try to help, but I wouldn't be TOO concerned about her offing herself.
maybe what's depressing her is the fact that the guy she likes doens't like her back. and she can't seem to accept that. and maybe she feels like she doesn't have anywhere to turn except for committing suicide.
i think what would be best is to maker HER realize that he isn't worthy of her...and that she can find someone else who's better.
(i'm not saying that it's the guy's fault..or he's in the wrong. but she needs to get her mind off of him ..and onto something else)