Re: Suggestions Please
with lotion it was mostly my 3.5 year old daughter, my soon to be 5 yrs old boy never touched it. but it was really hard to control my daughter, we tried to tell her nicely that if u want lotion ask me and i will give u, or use lotion only after bath, she will remeber it only for one day if she does atall. i even shouted at her but nothing worked with her.
i dont ignore when they do something wrong, but my husband says that i interfare too much in what they r doing and thats why they dont listen to me unless i called them a bit loudly.
at this point i have zero patience and tolerance level. problems in life made me like this , i never thought i would be like this one day. Since my mother died almost 4 years ago , my personality has changed so much and in a bad way. i get anxiety attacks, very rare though.
there was a period when i hit my kids too, not anymore though. dont think that i am an evel mother i am not. this hitting happend when i was living in pakistan with 3 kids and my husband was abroad. dealing with 3 little ones whole day , doing all house work and living in a very small house , no place for kids to play , got no friends or relatives in the city etc, this all made me sick and thats the time when i got anxiety attacks. thanks GOD now we r together again and things got so much better. i donot hit my kids anymore , still some shouting going on but i will control that too inshallah. whenever i think kids r getting on my nerves i call their father to deal with them. i still need to learn how to control my anger and be patience.
ohhh my God i wrote a long story, i hope u got my point. so thats the reason my kids r behaving like this, so tell me how i deal with this, what changes i need to make in my behaviour which will have positive impact on my kids.