Sudden loss of appetite

Just have a question for all you experienced Mom’s out there. My 7 year old son has all of a sudden been behaving very strangely. He was a very good eater Mashallah and usually a pretty happy kid. After visiting some family for a sleep over on the weekend he came home and was unusually quiet, he also didn’t want to eat his dinner which was one of his favorites. Then later that night he vomited. Since then he has been walking around the house being miserable and looking absolutely depressed! He doesn’t want to eat any “real” food, although he happily eats donuts or chips. When he is asked to eat he will look so so upset and make a ton of excuses and gag on his food. Sometimes these are the same things that he used to love eating!

I have asked him a million times what’s bothering him or if someone did something to him and he only responds “nothing”. I asked him why he doesn’t want to eat and he says he just doesn’t want to. My husband insists that I should just leave him and eventually he’ll eat but I am worried! It’s just not like him. Last time my younger son went to visit these same relatives he also came back and had no interest in eating, I read so many qul and durood for him and Mashallah he’s fine now.

Do I have reason to be concerned or should I just let things be? It’s been about a week now and things are still the same.

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Trust your mother instinct! Get him checked at the doctor's and maybe ask about how to handle the situation
Good luck, iA all will be well.

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*plz do NOT take the "nazar" route. take him to a doctor but before be more tactful and ask ur child if something had happened during his stay at his friend's place. if all else fail, take him to a psychiatrist that ur family physician might refer to. *

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Do not ignore this and trust your gut.

I would take him to a doc immediately.

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ask ur son abt the day u spend their,something that might distrubed him,made him confused or frightened,in some way…recall urself were u wid him all the time or not,u said it happen before to ur other child.
take him to the doctor,and if it dosenot help,then it can be nazar also,(nazar do exsist,)and there are ayats and duas for it also…sometimes wen people see a healthy eating child or anything good abt anyone,so nazar happens…people wen seeing others good things should say MASHAHALLAH..
donworry evrything will be fine bu the grace of ALMIGHTY ALLAH..
im also attaching a link
http://www.yanabi.com/forum/PrintTopic236482.aspx

one more

In the name of God, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ | Peace be with you السلام عليكم

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_2wAwZxWQz3I/StxDGBEpGcI/AAAAAAAAAuE/OGPU5gxSTOE/s320/nazar2.jpg

](nazar2.jpg (image))The Nazar/Evil Eye Stone (in Turkish it is called “nazar boncuğu”) is quite commonly used in Turkey - even among practising Muslims. It is believed by many that this stone will protect the one who wears it from the Evil Eye. The Evil Eye is actually a concept that is held in Islamic belief.

The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) used to say: “May you get relief from the pain, cured from the disease, and be protected from envy and evil eye by the virtue of Allah’s Name.”
[Reported by Muslim]

It is believed that when one is looked at in an envious or jealous way, it could cause injury or other forms of “bad luck”, so to speak. This is the Evil Eye. So, many Muslims (and even non-Muslims) wear amulets in an attempt to ward off the Evil Eye.
For example, the Nazar is commonly worn in Turkey to ward off the Evil Eye as aforementioned. The Nazar is usually a hanging ornament or flattened bead made from glass. It is usually blue and resembles a small circular eye. I know of many Shi’ites who wear the Hand of Fatima, or have it displayed in their mosques. I’ve also heard that in Pakistan, some Muslims recite verses from the Qur’an over a piece of string and wear that for protection. Some Muslims even wear an Ayat Al-Kursi amulet.**
However, the Prophet Muhammad (saw) has forbidden the wearing of these amulets for these purposes - regardless of whether it has a dua or something from the Qur’an written on it or recited over it.

Imaam Ahmad narrated in his Musnad from ‘Uqbah ibn ‘Aamir (RA) that the Prophet (SAW) said: “Whoever wears an amulet, may Allah not fulfil his need, and whoever wears seashells [for protection from the evil eye] may Allah not protect him.”
In the hadith above, the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) explains that Allah (SWT) will not protect you, and your need will not be fulfilled, if you wear amulets for the purpose of protection.

Another hadith has basically the same meaning:
"A group came to the Messenger of Allah (SAW) and he accepted the bay’ah [allegiance] of nine of them, but not from one of them.

They said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, you accepted the bay’ah of nine and not from this one.’

He said, ‘He is wearing an amulet.’

Then he took it in his hand and broke it, and the Prophet (SAW) accepted his bay’ah. He said, ‘Whoever wears an amulet is guilty of shirk.’"
[From Fataawa al-‘Ayn wa’l-Hasad, p. 277]

From this hadith, we can definitely acknowledge that one who wears a protection amulet is guilty of shirk. No piece of jewellery, or ornament, will ever protect you from the Evil Eye. Only Allah (SWT) can protect you - I will tell you how to get His protection in a moment. The only result that you will get from wearing a Nazar or amulet for protection would be displeasing Allah (SWT).

You would be commiting shirk by doing so, as you will be relying on something/someone other than Allah to help you. Shirk is the worst sin in Islam, and is unforgivable. One who commits shirk will not enter Jannah/Paradise unless they turn away from disbelief
It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah (RA) said: “The Messenger of Allah (SAW) commanded me, or he commanded (the people), to use ruqyah to deal with the evil eye.”
[Narrated by al-Bukhaari, al-Tibb, 5297]

**Ruqyah is when a person recites part of the Qur’an such as Al-Fatihah or makes supplication using words transmitted from the authentic hadith of the Prophet (SAW). So, to protect yourself from Evil Eye, you must recite the words of Allah (SWT) and rely on Him to help you. **Not some petty bead ****
****“It was narrated that A’i****shah (RA) said: “When the Messenger of Allah (SAW) was ill, he would recite al-Muawidhatayn (surahs of Al-Falaq and An-Nas) over himself and spit dryly… ” [Al-Bukhari]

To protect yourself from the Evil Eye, you can recite: Surah Al-Ikhlas, Surah Al-Falaq, Surah An-Nas and Ayat Al-Kursi. Also, you can read the following dua:
“A’oodhu bi kalimaat Allaah al-taammaati min sharri maa khalaq."
(“I seek refuge in the perfect words of Allaah from the evil of that which He has created.”)
[Narrated by Muslim, al-Dhikr wa’l-Du’aa, 4881]

Furthermore, to avoid giving somebody the Evil Eye, say “Masha’Allah” when paying them a compliment. This is because good (and bad) can only happen if Allah (SWT) wills it.

The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, is reported to have said: “Upon beholding something attractive, try to recount Allah’s glorification by saying, ‘Allah is Blessed!’ or ‘May Allah bless you!’”
So Muslims, I hope that you have learned something from this blog post. The only good that will result in this blog post is from Allah (swt) Himself. I urge all of you to immediately dispose of your nazar boncuğu and any other http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_2wAwZxWQz3I/StxDWM1cgNI/AAAAAAAAAuU/qEtNWM94254/s320/nazar3.jpg"protection" amulets that you may have, whether your intentions are to wear it for protection or just for fashion. Please avoid doing shirk.
*****Trust Allah (swt) - not a bead, jewellery *****

*******“Say: I seek refuge in the Lord of Daybreak. From the evil of that which He create. From the evil of the darkness when it is intense. And from the evil of malignant witchcraft. And from the evil of the envier when he envies.” *******
[Surah Al-Falaq 113]

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where i live people wear these kinda jewellarys,(rings,earrings,necklaces)...but the reason i attached
it here becoz of the hadiths about nazar,that's why i mentioned the above mattter here..

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Thank you for your replies guys! I took him to the doctor today. Doctor said there doesn’t appear to be anything wrong but sent him for a blood test. Have to wait to see what happens from the results.

I wasn’t with him when he went to these people’s house. We had a big long discussion about if anyone does something to you or touches you that you should tell your parents cuz they can help, but he never said anything. The good thing is that he has been less moody and his appetite has increased a little. I have been reading 4 qul’s on him at bedtime and before I give him breakfast. I just want to see him happy healthy child back!

@the_one-thanks for the links and hadith, I will check them out.

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if ur kid is not eating food try to read 4qul on his food , he will eat InshaAllah.

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Praying that all comes back well with the blood work! Hang in there :hug:

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plz dont send ur kids to anyones house if they are young...unless u really really trust them......relatives may be ok,but what about servants n family friends safer to take your kids with you .....
may allah bless your children with health n happy...

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Blood work is back and normal Allhamdulilah. He has started acting more normal since school started and since I've been reading qul on him. Maybe it was the change in routine???? Who knows. Thanks for all your support everyone :)

Well I don't usually send my kids anywhere without me. But these are our relatives, my husbands family, and my husband was there. But I don't know about you guys but sometimes dads can be a little absent minded!! They don't really pay attention to what is happening around them and with the kids.

But Allhamdulillah he's doing better and has been eating more, and definitely improved in his mood since school opened after spring break.

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omg.. the first thing that came in mind was maybe he was abused... cus it got me thinkin ur younger one came back depressed too... this is scary. i know the blood reports came fine but pls try and understand sexually abuse kids dun open up easily. i m hopin and prayin nothin happened to him of that sort.. touchin or anything but pls do keep it as an option too.. maybe he was thinkin abt it for a day or two and eventually stopped thinkin abt it to the point of being depressed?? dun ever leave ur kids alone in anyones house even if ur hubs is there with them. there are too many cases of even boys being harrassed these days.. pls b careful and always keep an eye on ur kids. xoxo