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I feel sorry for her... I dont think she would've married him and converted to Islam if she didnt truly think that it was just him and her... I doubt she would've married him knowing theres another woman and young kids involved in the picture. Sad story... glad your bro and bhabi worked it out... and I hope the athlete exwife is happy now wherever she is.
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In the end, we're all looking for a happy ending arent we? In PM's story, his brother was at fault for being with 2 women at the same time but he made an effort to correct his behavior by sticking it out with his 1st wife and his child. His first wife was completely innocent in all of this.
The other girl must not have known much because most non-Muslims arent really okay with the idea of a co-wife situation. Kwim? That must have been hard for her too but I guess the lesson is to be super-careful always. Hopefully, she realized the beauty of Islam and stayed a Muslim.
Im glad your brother is making things work with his first wife. He has a child and that is a priority.
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Most of my friends got married very young. My sis's husband didnt even have a car when they first got their nikah done. He was in grad school. Alhumdulillah, now they have everything they need and more!
Wow PS! that was an amazing story. It must have helped a lot of women out there. Even if someone is not going through what ur friend did, the story can still bring a lot of courage. Thanks for sharing.
I guess I'm weird because I am not inspired by these stories!! I feel like some super abusive men are going to use them to justify adultery, beating up their wives, etc.
My friend just came out of a marriage where her husband used to beat her up all the time(and he was my friend too :(, i had no idea)....he even beat her up during their honeymoon. I asked her after the divorce why she stayed with him for 2 years because I would have totally left. But she said he would always say to her that Allah hates divorce more than anything and just give him one more chance...so she felt guilty and kept giving him more and more chances. In the end the police were at our school because he was following her everywhere and saying that he is going to to pray for her and stuff... :-|
Btw, has anyone noticed that none of these stories are about horrible wives?
^^Aww tht truely is very sad, kinda makes me scared of getting Married:S
I guess I'm weird because I am not inspired by these stories!! I feel like some super abusive men are going to use them to justify adultery, beating up their wives, etc.
My friend just came out of a marriage where her husband used to beat her up all the time(and he was my friend too :(, i had no idea)....he even beat her up during their honeymoon. I asked her after the divorce why she stayed with him for 2 years because I would have totally left. But she said he would always say to her that Allah hates divorce more than anything and just give him one more chance...so she felt guilty and kept giving him more and more chances. In the end the police were at our school because he was following her everywhere and saying that he is going to to pray for her and stuff... :-|
Btw, has anyone noticed that none of these stories are about horrible wives?
Jalebi, I can see your POV. However, the thread is not meant to say its okay to stick it out in abusive relationships. These are simply stories of marriages that were able to turn it around through the worst of times. If I was in my best friend's shoes, I would have been long gone but she had the strength and understanding to change him so she did. Its also about women/men/couples who are struggling on all levels: financial, emotional, religious and how they make it through perseverance and teamwork.
Divorce is a last resort but it is a resort. Meaning, it is an option for couples who are simply not happy together no matter how hard they try.
But this is about people who are happy now after being miserable. :)
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wow nice story ...:)
Jalebi, I can see your POV. However, the thread is not meant to say its okay to stick it out in abusive relationships. These are simply stories of marriages that were able to turn it around through the worst of times. If I was in my best friend's shoes, I would have been long gone but she had the strength and understanding to change him so she did. Its also about women/men/couples who are struggling on all levels: financial, emotional, religious and how they make it through perseverance and teamwork.
Divorce is a last resort but it is a resort. Meaning, it is an option for couples who are simply not happy together no matter how hard they try.
But this is about people who are happy now after being miserable. :)
I agree, the ones who stick it out are the ones who were trully meant to be together. I think its all down to how much the woman loves her husband enough to stick by him and pull them both out of those hard times. When there is no connection like in arranged marriages, then neither the guy or the girl will have the will power. like well there is nothing there in the first place except a signed bit of paper then why put your life through hell. I know alot will disagree with me but only because i havent explained myself well enough, and just cus right now i dont have tinme to write. But dont worry i will sooner or later. thanks
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Life is all about struggling and being the best we can be in our own eyes. There is not a SINGLE human being I have come across that did not have some sort of struggle in their life. We should take what Allah (SWT) has given us and try to make the best of it. Noone is perfect and noone will ever be perfect. Accept that fact and learn to be flexible and loving and inshallah better things will soon happen your way.
but my sister tried her best to be as flexible as she cld be but.... to no avail...
maybe Allah Tallah wanted her and my parents to pas through this azmaish!!
i get so sad whenever i hear abt ALL THIS happening to any girl :(
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Your story is so inspiring.. People do not change so easily....