I don’t know it this is the proper place to ask this, but I’ll hear it if it’s not:
A friend of mine was raped long ago, becuase of that rape she behaved like an idiot, she slept with some strangers, even though it isn’t what she wanted to do, it’s not even her normal character. It happened a few times and it had strangely enough to do with that rape. She is a muslim, and she is very worried if Allah would forgive her for doing that. Her state of mind was, well crazy at the time. It happened few times and then it stopped, but it keeps on nagging her. She can’t come to terms with herself and every time she prays, she fears her prayers might not be heard anymore because of those deeds. She wonders if Allah would forgive her or that she is now cursed for th rest of her life?
What advise should I give her?
Da Almighty 4gives....she has not overcome an Xperience which every girl fears, & sometimes makes u wonder that guyz r hidden beasts.
Rape can only be comitted by a beast that has no concern 4 nature & da beauty it holds. Da devil just stimulates that beast & unleashes a storm in da brain which has no calm....
She has 2 start prayin & look @ some ayats in regard 2 this....it will give her solace. Da ayats will calm her down. I've said this b4, sayin it again.
There is no 2morrow....yesterday was da past - da past was a mistake, yet it was better than 2day, 2day its what u r, & where u r, there is no 2morrow, coz its da future & it holds a very bleak trance, which is divine yet far....I might make sense 2 u.... learn from ur mistakes, put them behind, move 4ward - face ur fears & live ur dreamz....!
Its between her and her god, if she was screwed at the time then we are noone to judge what was going through her mind, instead of worrying about wheither god will forgive her, she has to forgive herself. Has she had any counciling?
If she finds peace herself and learns to put all those horrible memories behind her then that is a start.
And god - should listen to everyone. He made her, Im sure he understands her pain.
Tell her to be happy.
ok if she didn't want to have sleep with strangers...why the hell did she.
Yes teh rape is a disturbing experience..but by having sex with strangers when u don't want it..is a rape in itself!....
This friend of yours is not telling u the whole story...
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*Originally posted by The new COOLDUDE: *
ok if she didn't want to have sleep with strangers...why the hell did she.
Yes teh rape is a disturbing experience..but by having sex with strangers when u don't want it..is a rape in itself!....
This friend of yours is not telling u the whole story...
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mind can play strange tricks with humans sometimes. She doesn't even understand everything herself. But she's working on it. We can't read other peoples mind.
liek u said sometimes the victims fault.. uhh i dont kno bout that.. maybe dressing scantily can be invitin men for a lil attention.. but that doesnt mean that a girl is responsible for rape or its her fault.. Men do have a brain and men should be responsible for their actions.. women in burqas get raped.. all kinds of women get raped, old women, little girls get raped.. they arent askin for it.. nor r they responsible.. everyman is responsible for his action whether he's drunk, stoned, mad, perverted, sick in the head or psychologically disturbed or traumatized... he is responsible.. and so for the female.. as well.. so if a man forces himself on a woman.. or visa versa.. its rape and the victim isnt responsible for it..
yea she got raped but she was the one who chose to sleep around..and there will be consequences for her action.. the guilt i assume must be torture.. and whether ALLAH forgives her or not thats between the two of them.. so i cant say anything bout that
i totally disagree with u.. its NEVER ONE PERSON'S FAULT... IT GOES BOTH WAY...
rape is forcin onself on the other person and havin intercourse disregarding the victim's wish...
so how is it the others person's fault.. and how is it the victim's fault.. Perhaps maybe the victims fault is that they shouldve been liek uhh go ahead.., jus do it.. i might as well enjoy it.. why should i give u the takleef of forcin urslef on me when clearly u can have me..
n men do get raped.. im not stickin up for women here.. im stickin up for the victims
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*Originally posted by Aishaaa1: *
well i disagree with u. You ACT LIKE PREY, u get TREATED like prey. It is NEVER one person's fault
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r u includin every woman in this..?? it seems that way...
cuz u kno there r little girls an women who get raped in their own house.. where intruders come inTO THEIR HOUSE and RAPE Them.. i dont think thats actin like a prey
Aishaaa, how can rape be the victims 'fault'???? So the girl that gets pulled into the alleyway when shes walking home from school one day and is raped at knifepoint is guilty of provoking the attack?? Or the man who invites his friends over for a beer and is anally assaulted brought it upon himself?? Where did you get that idea from love?