on sunday i went to the mela 2003 in wembley & well it was excellent,i had a superb time, the only thing that really bothered me was this…when i was at the place where all the asian bhangra stuff was happening…proper loud music,just like a concert…you could feel the ground shake & all, im there having a great time & enjoying DIP n DJsanj n co singing etc when i hear crying,i look besides me & this woman(prob 22something) is standing there with a newborn baby in her arms & the baby is crying,i was so shocked to see a newborn baby there, well even though the baby is crying in her arms shes trying to mke the baby quite n still enjoy herself…after a while she left coz the bay wouldnt stop crying…i was amazed at hr stupidity,i mean my ears were hurting & im sure the new born baby must have gone deaf…after half an hour she comes back..with the baby * the baby is quite the whole way through,im sure it had become deaf and wasnt crying because simply couldnt hear anything. i just felt like going upto her and slapping her! i mean if she couldnt look after the baby why have it in the first place? poor baby:(
^ or it may simply be that the baby had not yet been fed for the day.
i agree to an extent...its her job to make sure her kid is in n environment which is suitable to him/her....while it is wrong to expose the kid to this, i understand that she wanted to have some fun....my question...where is the father during all this???....if the mother did wanna enjoy for a while...she should have the luxury of leaving her child with the father for a while
Having a newborn doesn't take her right away to enjoy herself.. she's a mother.. not dead. How do you know she's a bad mother?? she did leave her entertainment and attend to the baby's needs didn't she?
actually she can and is allowed to have fun just use a baby sitter....it's rude to the other people at the eveent BUT desis refuse to use baby sistters and drag their poor kids to such events no matter the noise or the lateness of time.
1) she should have the ability to have fun
2) her husband should help her with the kid either sometimes he stays at hoem with the kid while she goes out, and vice versa...or even the spouses taking turns could work i.e. wife goes and enjoys the music while the husband chills with the kid in another part of the mela whie husband
3) baby sitter, friend/family should be used.
4) sacrificing a little bit of your fun for the baby's sake is critical, if none the other options are not available or not planned.
5) exposing a newborn to loud music like that is ridiculous..yes we hear a lot about music's impact on new borns and how beneficial it is..but by that ppl did not mean umpteen decibles of dhols and 'haripa' going on..
Someone will probably get on my case for saying this (happening quite often these days)
...but this lady is not only an idiot, but she is a jackass for putting her fun above the wellbeing of her kid.
My best friend had a little one sometime ago. The baby was barely a few months old. She had to attend this family wedding at the inlaws in UK.
When she arrived at this hotel, the music was so loud that she got scared for her baby's ears. She couldn't have left it with anyone because she wasn't from UK and everyone she knew was there. She stayed as far from the speakers as possible yet the music according to her, was still hurting her own head. Luckily, the baby survived. But that smart girl had to face quite a bit of criticism from her hosts that she was nowhere on the dance floor like ever before and she was barely in the movy.
What do yo ucall that.... colective stupidity??
Are you sure that the mother was trying to have fun?? may be she just couldn't slip away. But then again... the baby comes first. So unless there was no place where she could have gone she had no excuse for staying there.
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Are you sure that the mother was trying to have fun?? may be she just couldn't slip away. But then again... the baby comes first. So unless there was no place where she could have gone she had no excuse for staying there.
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from what i understood...the mother had gone away n then come back to enjoy...my perception was that she was there by choice not by lack of options...i dunno maybe I misunderstood
Or may be you didn't. May be she was the likes of my friend's in laws.
The mother should not have brought the baby into an environment that could damage his/her hearing. She's an idiot.
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The mother should not have brought the baby into an environment that could damage his/her hearing
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that was exactly my point.
i wasnt saying the mother shoudnt have fun, she just shouldnt have had a baby if she couldnt look after it properly. & u know what even when she took the baby away, it wasnt very far & then she comes back...i just felt so sorry for the baby. & peeps, ppl dont go to concerts or melas coz they have to, it is out of choice & no i couldnt see any1 else with her,her family was probably around the stalls or somewhere.
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that was exactly my point.
i wasnt saying the mother shoudnt have fun, she just shouldnt have had a baby if she couldnt look after it properly. & u know what even when she took the baby away, it wasnt very far & then she comes back...i just felt so sorry for the baby. & peeps, ppl dont go to concerts or melas coz they have to, it is out of choice & no i couldnt see any1 else with her,her family was probably around the stalls or somewhere.
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agree with punjabi kuri, if they cant take care of kids they better shouldnt have it! or if they cant resist the urge then they should have made some arrangments for the baby!
OR... she might not hav ebeen the mother at all... might have been a baby sitter. Or a stupid care taker.
what do you say??
i could tell she was the mother.