When stupid little incidents happen…one on top of the other (from the same source)..what do you do? confrontation won’t really help b/c it’s a minor issue. but when they pile up, it gets frustrating. A few weeks/days later I know i wont’ really care but for those few moments, i feel like my head will explode or something. ok i’m not tryin to be dramaybaaz and all, but still.
Re: Stupid little incidents
STOP! and leave for a moment. Say "Aauzu billa...." and " Laholwalaaquwata ila bila...." and have a glass of water, and get busy in something you find interesting...
At that very moment full of emotions, the intense temptation would be to continue and confront, but if I don't withdraw at that very moment, I would be laughing at my own stupidity when later I look back and analyse my own behaviour.
Also any step taken in the heat of the moment would only worsen the situation. After giving it a thought with a cool head, you would be able to come up with the best way of confronting (discussing and understanding) in an effective manner (full of wisdom)
Anger is because of devil (shaitaan) and devil is made of fire and abolution helps in removing it, as water removes fire (reference from a hadith)