Protecting your family is normal. People don’t need to know everything about you. Besides, even when you tell someone something unimportant, they find ways to change that unimportant small thing into something big it is not.
Yes, unfortunately this runs in our family and friends circle too, doing stuff we know is wrong, only to make others happy. I think we are all being hypocrite in one way or another in our social lifes. I even know many people (including family members unfortunately) who are different in front of non desis, they act like non desis around them, they suddenly have different ideas of life when they are with non desis. but the minute they come home or they are with others Pakistanis, they change again.
I don’t care anymore if it shocks non - desis when I do have a certain opinion. I don’t act different anymore in front of non-desi friends. I used to do that too in the past.