stuff we do for our precious 'izat'

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Re: stuff we do for our precious ‘izat’

@fartguru

Any answer wud be easier said than done. Human beings are social animals who have to interact and be accepted by society. Especially Muslim societies, still very much family oriented and dictated by societal norms unlike the western individualistic model. There is no shame in protecting your own, it has been going on for centuries at different scales but same effect. Izat or respect is extremely important in clan recognition, those who lose respect or their izzat are derided and ostracized by society, thus the need to protect and hide. Moreso, over the centuries these traits have been conditioned in our psyche so much so that we have made them part of our life sometimes giving them preference over religion and blood.

Garding your izat could be positive too. But unfortunately we humans turn everything normal into something bad.

If we start looking at ourselves before pointing fingers at others, if we open up to other ideas, understand each others point of view, if we allow each other to have a different opinoin, a different way of life as long as it is still in Islam, as long as we allow each other to make a mistake as normal humans do, it shouldn’t be something negative.

An Aunty once told me, that when you die, the witness of the people you leave behind about your character is important. She said, if there are more people who remember you positively you get more sawaab. that puzzled me, suppose they don’t even know your heart? Suppose they have misunderstandings about your character? How could any human truly judge another human being for 100%?