Re: stuff we do for our precious 'izat'
The thing that really gets to me is, when a kid "messes up" because of the family pressure. Some kids are pressured too much into doing something they don't want (anymore). To avoid that pressure they "mess up".
Sometimes parents/family makes a child so desperate and when something goes wrong, they only put the blame on their child. They forget they had an equally and maybe even more important part in it.
I've seen from very close parents who were critisezed by some of their friends that what they were doing with their kid(s) was the wrong way to treat their kids. To avoid those comments from their friends, the parents started to say stuff about their kids which wasn't true, so they would come off better. They cared more for their own naqli "izat" than about the truth.
What's wrong with admitting that you as an elderly person were wrong (too)? It's not bad to admit a mistake when you know you've made one. Age shouldn't matter.
I think it's something for cowards, not acknowledging you can make a mistake too. That's only human no matter how old you are! Even buzoorgs can be wrong in certain issues.