Stubborn opposite gender siblings

Dushwari · November 12, 2007, 12:48am

how do you take care of younger siblings stubborn attitudes?

share if you like.
best,

Dushwari

Monk · November 12, 2007, 12:58am

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slap them around.. tell them who is the boss

Hum_Hain_Lajawab · November 12, 2007, 1:08am

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Dushwari · November 12, 2007, 1:11am

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hum hein lajawab,

i really like the recreation and iving polite confidence-generating guidance-giving ideas. these are so true.

best,
Dushwari

pinks · November 12, 2007, 1:13am

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Ashes 5th Test- Oval

LOL that’s not the solution in every case

@ thread: It is thus better to be their friend, not only bro/sis. If they do something wrong, use wisdom and tell them politely. And keep telling them but don’t go after them repeating the same thing over and over every 5 minutes (which will drive him/her further away). When I say keep telling them, I meant that look at the situation and keep telling them according to that but you have to be polite and use wisdom when you speak. Give examples from lives of Prophet/Sahabas/and others who you might know personally. Take the younger siblings out once awhile. Play sports with them. Talk to each other and be their friend. If they have something going on in their life, ask them and talk to them about it to guide them better instead of the ‘live & let live’ rule which might take them on a wrong path.

v. well said! a part of the wisdom u talk of is to never use religous examples when they are annoyed/angry… this isn’t very productive… it shud only be done when they are calm.

being friends is the best (if not the only) way! one other way is to always be there for them, even if it means putting our needs second coz they will see how sincere u r towards them inshallah. Also, small presents once in a while goes a long way… everyone feels good knowing that you thought of them

Hum_Hain_Lajawab · November 12, 2007, 1:16am

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Dushwari · November 12, 2007, 1:16am

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how about simple things like wanting your brother, to not think about you, but get settled himself?

Dushwari

pinks · November 12, 2007, 1:19am

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i got what u meant :)

it takes almost every ounce of my energy to practise what i wrote above at times :) ghuddey kabhi kabhi itna ghussa dila te haiN... playing games two days before their final exams :really really angry waala peela aadmi:

Dushwari · November 12, 2007, 1:21am

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pinks, it does take every ounce of your energy. but, as eldest siblings, one needs to simply keep going on, i think.

best,
Dushwari

pinks · November 12, 2007, 1:23am

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u think right! sometimes i feel life wouldv'e been so much easier had i ben the youngest :( but Alhumdulillah being the eldest has its advantagous :) :) :)

Dushwari · November 12, 2007, 1:27am

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pinks, i agree. Alhamd-al-Allah, setting a good example for the younger ones is a joy.
best,
Dushwari

pinks · November 12, 2007, 1:28am

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haha, oh yeah and that too...

i was thinking of other advantages, but i guess setting a good example is important too :)

Hum_Hain_Lajawab · November 12, 2007, 1:30am

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@ Dushwari:

Sometimes younger ones also set example for elders

There are few cases (ahem ahem) where younger ones should follow the elders (not necessary though) but turns out that elders have to follow the example of young ones, right Dushi? You know what I’m talking about don’t you

saieen · November 12, 2007, 1:48am

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tell them whose the dictator…errr…i mean the boss… :halo: