Lots of kids are bullied in grade school/junior high/high school/real-world..Some of them are made stronger coz of it, “what doenst kill you makes you stronger”, while others are broken and left with no self esteem.. The latter end up taking their anger out on themselves or others, whether by becoming hermits/recluses, holding suspicion even for loved ones n ruining important relationships, or in very very very xtreme cases as shown on the news last few yrs, violence..
Why is one made stronger while the other made weaker? Are there inherent/biological factors involved? Im not tryin to get into the psychology of kids or whatever but its been on my mind for a while.. I think if a child is able to talk to someone, their parents, an older brother or sister, someone who’ll listen to them w/o being judgemental, who’ll stand up for them, without just cutting them off n saying, “well they’re right, you are this way, accept it and move on.” then maybe they’ll eventually become stronger, know that they have unconditional support and care at home, and learn to ignore others, because their confidence n self esteem n self respect is based in one of the most important places, the home..? I know there are ppl who will say, “well noone ever stood up for me, i learnt to fight for myself, came out stronger int eh end etc.” n thas true.. but I feel like im the xception* (seems to almost everything normal) *coz I don remember ever having anyone stand up for me, and I still ahve trouble to this day, standing up for myself against anyone..
Sometimes.. its not just abt that problem that everyones bugging u about, if ure dumb, ure unattractive, u deserved something to happen to you..etc… its just wanting someone who’ll **unconditionally **stand up for you , to march up to that person and say “how dare you say/do that to my daughter/sister/friend?”.. Is it such a bad thing to want? I know ure sposed to stand up for yourself, but theres some situations where u cant say anything, you cant tell anyone what happened, coz part of it was ur fault/sharam/hayya keeps u frm saying anything, or that person was justified in saying watever htey said..Sometimes I dunno whats worse, what happened or was said, or that noone wud stand up for you.. :hinna:
… its far too easy to just get angry and go in a corner and cry rather than stand firm or be polite/nice.. :hinna: