young women or men, who do not strong personalities, in the context of being true to their convictions, and are not autonomous as well as fully responsible as young adults of their decisions - personal decisions, how do they survive with a dependent decisional nature?
at what point, would you say that it is important for such a person to grow as an adult and assume responsibility for her/ his thoughts, intentions, words and actions?
share your thoughts, if you like.
Dushwari
Re: Strong Characters and Autonomy of Decision making
i have a 24 yr old brother and a 21 yr old..
my 21 yr old bhai thinks he is mr know it all..and tht he has been around so much tht he knows exactly how things work or should work..and how human mind works...theres always conflict between him and my dad..he thinks my dad is just too nice and my dad thinks tht my bhai is young and doesnt really look ahead.
i guess when you start making money and spending it on ur own is when u grow as an adult and assume responsibility for their thoughts,intentions,words and actions..but its important to remember tht we all have different opinions, thoughts,intentions,words and actions
Re: Strong Characters and Autonomy of Decision making
young women or men, who do not strong personalities, in the context of being true to their convictions, and are not autonomous as well as fully responsible as young adults of their decisions - personal decisions, how do they survive with a dependent decisional nature?
at what point, would you say that it is important for such a person to grow as an adult and assume responsibility for her/ his thoughts, intentions, words and actions?
share your thoughts, if you like.
Dushwari
As long as we realize that having a strong character and having the autonomy of making decisions may not always be the decisions that are the best for the individual personally. That would be selfish and immature, they have to realize that their decisions could have impact on a number of people, and as such, they may make a decision that is overall best and not necessarily the one they would have made had the constraints of impact to others were not present.
and that point, should come about as soon as the person is making major decisions..
Re: Strong Characters and Autonomy of Decision making
^ Faudia Bhia, i agree with what you said, in its context, yet i find this logic to be self deceitful in case of people who are confusing or remain confused to confuse other people. the intentions, motives and moral judgements of the people who take the loop hole of this logic, justify rebuking others by making this statement, that it was for the benefit of others how ever all along, they could care less about these same people's wellfare.
in that case, such people are of no where - neither true to themselves nor to those whom they make their alibi.
which is why, assuming personal responsibility as anadult woman or man, is crucial . i can see life and death situations, where one could argue that for the benefit of the weak and the vulnerable, a sacrifice of one' time, person and resources is to be made. but to expect the same generosity at the expense of
undermining another person, is shameful.
and doing so in a coward, selfish and immature manner is far from justified or sane.
what do you think?
Dushwari
Re: Strong Characters and Autonomy of Decision making
I am not going to go deep into utilitarianism, but what is in the greatest interest of everyone, that may be the factor not deceit, and you are right, someone may not have cared for others all along, and could have an awakening under circumstances and begin to get a better understanding of what those people may mean to one.
and in cases as such, the person making the sacrifice is not just undermining someone else, but undermining themselves..and that is a sacrifice.
In such cases being seen as someone who is not true to themselves, shameful, confusing others, coward, selfish and immature may end up being another sacrifice. The other impacted person may grieve for the time and for not seeing the 'true' colours, but they may find it easier to move on because this person has put on a facade of being an ogre, and to make oneself look bad on purpose making it easy for the other party to move on.
such a person may consider it the ultimate sacrifice. and whether or not the other impacted person agrees with that approach or not, and whether in the long term the approach haunts this person, maybe at that point in time it seemed like the right thing to do.
as they say you have to walik in one's shoes to know what was in one's mind.