strong character

[princessjojo]

Re: strong character

@el_topo

Hmm, okay this may be a bit unpopular but what the hay : D. Those who continuously sacrifice themselves/suffer in silence/etc. I was talking yesterday to an ex work colleague. He is very unhappy in his marriage, very. But he has decided he is going to remain in it. I like him, I admire his steadfastness in the matter, but I don’t think it shows a strength of character.

May I ask, which morals/values do you consider to be universally right?

From my perspective, it is the component that potentially gives birth to all the other components. But I do gets what you is saying, so fair enough.

No, I do not at all think making a miserable marriage last is a sign of strong character. It’s surely a mark of patience but not ‘strong character.’

My definition just goes back to the simple one of being able to stand up for and act upon what *you *think is right in the face of opposition, pressure and/or temptation. Also, being able to say and accept things as they are without rationalization. And things of those sort.

I have an unpopular example too that does not gel with the majority on this board, but oh well, it continues to be what I believe. It is about marrying based on falsehood. We’ve had many people here make threads about how they think it’s okay to lie to their prospective spouses about their past (whatever it may be), *upon being specifically asked about that particular issue (because it’s seemingly ok to decide what is okay and not okay, what matters and what does not matter, for another person!!). *I personally think that not revealing something that has not been asked and lying about something that has been asked are situations poles apart. This, to me, is rationalization for personal gain.

As for things that I think are universally ‘right’…honesty, integrity, not taking away another person’s autonomy/choices because it benefits you, etc.