Neither. Both are extreme cases. There is a big difference between being independent and being too formal. When you are married, you have to give that person importance and share your feelings and thoughts with them. The independent game leaves the other spouse feeling unwanted and takes away the closeness in a marriage. The clingy wife needs to stop acting like a child and learn to do things for herself. Eventually, the husband may get tired of catering her needs. Overall, my point is that one should be independent in taking care of themselves and not tryingt make others do their tasks. Also, one must realize that work is work, you can't call every hour. A good rule is to just let him call, that way he wilk call if hes free and wants ti talk. A lot of times husbands will get bored if clingy wives that are constantly chasing them, let them approach you too so you should be independent in doing tasks, taking care of urself, but not in feelings and sharing and letting that close bond form i have seen so many couples break apart because one could not give the ego and wanted ti be "independent, never get too attached to anyone, i only have myself in the end" bs. This is honestly so annoying and there's only a limit to how much the other person can try to bond.
What you're talking about is an extreme and not at all what the poster is implying in scenario #2
The independent wife does what she does out of concern for her husband because he works hard and she feels bad burdening him. That in itself is care and love. If someone misinterprets a woman stretching herself soooo thin as nonchalance and indifference...he's not a very smart or perceptive man to begin with.
What you're talking about is an extreme and not at all what the poster is implying in scenario #2
The independent wife does what she does out of concern for her husband because he works hard and she feels bad burdening him. That in itself is care and love. If someone misinterprets a woman stretching herself soooo thin as nonchalance and indifference...he's not a very smart or perceptive man to begin with.
I know. I wasn't going off of just this one example but a general case of independent vs clingy based on what i had seen in my life. I have seen way too many people use the independent thing to push away their spouse without even knowing what they were doing until it was too late.
It depends on husbands. Some husbands will take wives for granted no matter how much efforts she puts in all day while there are men who will keep catering to nakhray even if she doesn't lift her finger all day.
You didnt read my post properly. I said im not going off of the above e,example but the general ideas. Independence is good until it is too much. There is a balance between being too independent and too clingy. A little dependence is important for a marriage just as a little independence is.
