Re: Stressed!
So it looks like your husband supports you, at least to a certain degree. So it’s better than I thought. Well, if she has had a certain amount of control over you then I’d say your strategy is to break it down little by little. One good example that comes to mind is that when she keeps your husband tied up sitting with her watching TV etc. then go to your family at that time and tell him to get you when he’s done. Discuss it with your husband and leave the house without telling her anything. If she says anything to you later on, you could say that he was busy and you were bored and you think that’s a good arrangement to deal with this type of situation in the future.
Concerning intimate details asking, when she started crying then you could say something like “I know you’re asking out of love” and comforted her and apparently sympathize with her but then make it clear that it’s inappropriate to ask something those questions.
Again I don’t want you to end up in trouble. Just sharing some thoughts. Of course, before attempting this (or anything else for that matter) I would say get your husband on board. Make sure he understands and sympathizes with your concerns/situation.
You are right about my husband that’s why I am giving it some time. About going to my parents place, that’s not possible cuz they live in another city and even if I do go out and say I was bored or for whatever reason, she will say come and sit with us then. She’s a ver good player she knows when to do it and how to do it.