Strange situation of my relative in Canada

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My male relative in Canada met this girl on a matrimonial site (same religion and same age). They dated for a few weeks and convinced their parents for a quick marriage. They were married within 3 months of meeting each other through a matrimonial site.

There were warning signs…why was a desi girl who was very pretty, educated and in good shape still unmarried at age of 30…

After being married for less than a month, my relative came home from a business trip to find the apartment totally empty, gone were all the girl’s clothes, all the wedding jewelry, all the expensive items and the bank accounts were empty.
While he dealing with the shock of this, in the morning the police came arrested him because the girl had gone to the police station and made a claim of domestic violence even though he has never touched her.

It looks like it was all the girl and her family’s plan to steal all the expensive wedding jewelry and other items and they put the police case on the boy so that it will be very hard for him to recover these items now.

So he is on bail now, trying to fight the charges and deal with his emotional and financial losses.

So all the single guy’s in Toronto/Brampton area, beware of girls that post their profiles on matrimonial sites.

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Ok Enterprise, as much as my sympathies are with your male relative, the story is hard to believe (even ignoring the fact that this is your first post). If the guy actually never abused the girl, it would not take much for the police to realize that the girl was lying. In fact, even before that, without any proof of physical abuse, the police in West do not arrest people on complain from wife only.

Once the police realizes that the girl was lying, how hard it is for them to actually arrest the girl, knowing the she lied and then swept the accounts and the house.

and your male relative put her name in all the accounts, in less than 1 month of marriage and less than 3-4 months of knowing the girl?

What is this - teen aurtain teen kahaniyan?

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Waisay I heard that Canadian desi girls (CDG is going to kill me) are very chalaak.

I trust your Enterprise, I trust you.

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Actually this is a true story. I had to create another Id because I can be identified by my regular id.

From what I could gather, initially they did not believe my relative at all since the girl has claimed he is a drug addict and beat her up in his alcoholic binges. She even put some bruises on herself.

However, his bail was reduced to only 1500 dollars when he was to show that as part of his job he gets randomly drug tested and the last random drug test was only a few weeks ago. Also, he does not drink at all since he is religious. Also, she messed up by claiming the date and time of the attack since at that time he was with some other friends.

I know this situation seems like it is in the movies but it is real.

The reason why he agreed to marry so quickly was because he is 32 and felt that he was getting old, and the girl was very pretty & charming + convincing.

Also, her parents & relatives have all switched off their phones and cannot be reached at all.

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You are so dead TLK! :ASA:

On topic - you know it may very well be true but its kind of absurd for you to come here and paint that all girls in Canada especially Toronto Brampton area are shady! There are a lot of girls on here form that area and even though I'm not I'm offended.

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to be on his side CDG, he said beware of girls** that post their profiles on matrimonial sites**.

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One should beware of ANYONE that posts their profiles on matrimonial sites! Do your due diligence. Wasn't there a thread about a married guy who had a profile on a matrimonial site a while ago?

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Redvelvet your posts are cracking me up! LOL

@OP: I don't know if I believe this. You're saying he's in jail on bail for a crime he didn't commit simply because his wife told the police a lie. No evidence and nothing at all backing it up would never put an innocent man in jail.. And what did the police do abt the stolen money from his account? Doesn't seem possible at all.

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I couldn't continue reading after that sentence in bold. That is such a generalization. Just because your family had a bad experience, it doesn't mean you can classify all girls in similar age group as warning signs.

I am sorry for the bad experience your relative had but please avoid comments that would give be considered generalizations and sets a negative image of a certain group of people.

Rest, your relative should have spend more time before jumping into the marriage or adding the girl on all his accounts. There is something fishy about this story...

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Although certain details seem a bit ridiculous in this situation, and I’m not familiar with how things work in Canada in regards to domectic violence etc…I will say that I can potentially see this happening (ie. the girls turning out to be a TOTALLY different person soon after marriage).

I actually know a Indian couple who is currently going through this. They met on Shaadi.com last year, got engaged within a few months, and married earlier this year. Heck hubby and I went to their wedding. Except in this case…the GUY turned out to be a lying piece of sh*t. Both highly educated with professional jobs. We met his wife through groom. Within 3 months of marriage, literally within a week TONS of secrets just came out. When things went south, she called me to get some help and since then A LOT of nasty, unbelievable details came out regarding the guy (including the fact that he has a 4 year old daughter!). Yet in all the years the my hubby and other mutual friends have known this guy, we had no idea that he had this totally creepy side to him!

So yea…weird things happen.

However, I do have a problem with the general statements above regarding girls. It’s not like all guys on matrimonial sites are angels themselves.

And just b/c a pretty, educated desi is single at 30, that doesn’t automatically mean that she’s a lying thief! Heck someone could turn this around and also pass judgment on your cousin. After all, if he’s such a great “catch” himself, then why did he have to turn to a matrimonial site at the age of 32 to find a wife?

The lesson here is that BOTH men and women need to be cautious. And for the love of God people, do not combine ALL finances as soon as the nikah papers are signed (especially when you haven’t know the person for too long). :smack: Don’t even get me started on how often this leads to issues.

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I am a Canadian girl, born and raised! I am not chalak, and no man has to "beware" of me!

Anyway, back on topic now. I have a degree in HR, and I know in Canada it is illegal to do drug testing on your employees. Doing drugs is considered an addiction, and an addiction is considered a mental health issue. As an employer, you can not discriminate against an employee for any health issues.

BUT....if what you said did happen, thats messed up. And no matter how old someone is, they shouldnt rush into a marriage with someone they barely know.

And you shouldnt generalize about girls in Toronto/Brampton. If that girl is telling her side of the story to her friends and she is saying "beware of guys from Toronto/Brampton, because they will beat you and drink and take drugs", it doesnt make it true!

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Guys please don't make this cafe and can one of the mods please clean this thread up and keep it on topic.

Saima I am pretty sure in some industries they do drug testing specially with sensitive shipments and drivers for those shipments and what not.

As for other things, yes police usually just comes and arrests you without much evidence when your significant other reports that you have abused her, that is specially true in mississauga. Happend to a friend of mine and not an easy place to be in. These cases don't amount to much in the end and usually end up in a truce by both parties but the guy can kiss all his stuff good bye unless he wants to go through a lengthy civil litigation process which will take too long. I think sehrysh may be able to provide a better legal prespective on it but this stuff does happen exactly like how the OP said.

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not as unbelievable as it seems. stranger things have happened before.

have seen a couple of cases like this in lahore.

in addition to demanding joint bank account and shared locker for jewelry, right at the time of the wedding (on stage during walima ceremony in one case), the girls in such cases, avoid having sexual relationship with the guy, on one pretext or the other, or take pills to avoid getting pregnant.

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I don't think any girl would go ahead and beat herself to become more convincing. As for the drugs and alcohol abuse...well...I am sure your relative is very shareef and all that.

BUT

You do not know what happens behind closed doors and that's the real truth. You will never know what happens in the privacy of someone else's home and what they do on their own time. Religious or not. Just because someone prays 5 times a day doesn't mean they are automatically religious in their hearts as well. For many people, namaz seems to simply be an exercise. My ex didn't miss a single namaz...but that didn't stop him from cleaning out our ENTIRE apartment (he even took the spoons) and then claiming in court that I did it. He tried to sue me for everything.

Needless to say...the judge dismissed this as soon as he realized it wasn't true. Courts will ask for proof and since there won't be any...your friend will be done with this soon enough.

Now the financial ramifications are different...those will take time to get through :(

As for the absurd statements about pretty girls on matrimonial sites...false.

People don't go no websites because they're desperate. They do it because they have no other way of meeting someone who can actually qualify as a life partner for them.

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:rotfl:

army of defenders of shady girls !!

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Can your friend file a criminal lawsuit against the girl?

Surely the her identification was not fake?

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this story might be believeable in pakistan but not in Canada.... looks like the OP doesn't know much about the canadian system

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Waisay.. I've heard the same about Pakistani born and raised girls LOL.

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waisay ab aap pe timaatar phainkay jaanay walay hain

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who knows what really happened and who is right in this situation. ive known several friends in the toronto area that were arrested with no evidence because a girl cries abuse..and took at least a year and multiple court dates to shake off the claims when the girls' claims fell through.
i dont blame cops either, bc there is rampant abuse in the desi community in Toronto - they are liable if they dont protect someone claiming they are being harmed.

and ive seen first hand people hitting themselves to make it look like someone else had hurt them. crazy world out there !