They say when and whom you get married to is all a written in your destiny and no matter what you do, you just cannot fight it.
I am a firm believer of destiny but I also believe that it is not always “meant to be”. Sometimes you have to really go out of your way and fight destiny to make it happen. And this holds true for not only marriage but also your career, family etc.
My question is - so when do you know whether to leave it to destiny or fight your way through it? I know in my life, I never got anything easily; I always always had to struggle a lot to get or achieve anything.
So how to work around this now?
Also, anyone here with stories of couples who split up ( for whatever reasons - willingly or unwillingly) but somehow they did manage to be together? Despite the circumstances or situations going against them?
Looking for some hope here guys!
Re: Stories of destiny bringing you back together
My husband and I split up after about 9-10 months of dating and got back together after a few months. We had some major hurdles come our way but we both decided to fight them as a team.
You don’t know what your “destiny” is. You follow your instinct and trust that you’re making the right decision. If your gut tells you to fight, then fight. If your guts tells you that this is not a good idea in the long run, then back-off. Use your brain when making these decisions…not emotions. Evaluate the situation based on facts. Be honest with yourself about what kind of future you want and what you’re willing to give up to get that future. In a relationship, BOTH people have to be on the same page. If both people are wiling to fight and make the necessary sacrifices in order to be together, then anything is possible.
Re: Stories of destiny bringing you back together
An uncle I met at the mosque told me his story..it really sounded like a Pakistani Drama or something…He liked girl A, he wanted to Marry her, but I guess it didn’t work out for some reason or another…I think she moved away? he got older and arranged married Girl B, things didn’t work out with Girl B and there was a divorce. Later on…couple years later he met Girl A again at wedding of a mutual friend of theirs, turns out she also was married and got divorced recently like him. So they married each other in there 30’s..
it’s been like a year and half since he told me this story so I forgot parts of it..
when you say “fighting destiny” you can’t really fight destiny..if its suppose to happen it will…if its suppose to be a long treacherous difficult road to obtain it, that’s also part of destiny. Somethings come easy for people while others is quite difficult.
" But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not." Surah Al-Baqarah 2:216