I kind of agree with the OP - people can be overly mean (I am not ruling myself out here) and maybe we do need to take a reality check. And to those saying ‘if you think it’s mean - report it’ well no, it doesn’t really work like that. If you were to report something you’d expect it to be on the extreme end of mean; however comments such as the ones posted above - well they’re not exactly nice are they? But I wouldn’t go reporting them because they’re not ‘harsh enough’ per se.
I think what OP means is that the tone of the comments perhaps needs to be a more pleasant and light-hearted, rather than looking for flaws or ridiculing people. I don’t think everyone does it, but sometimes we can say things that might seem offensive to others, and I think it’s just a reality check to try and hold that back.
I think what OP means is that the tone of the comments perhaps needs to be a more pleasant and light-hearted, rather than looking for flaws or ridiculing people.
Frankly I think that's a unrealistic expectation where you have a group of mostly women commenting on other women's choices regarding wedding attire/related items. Yes it would be nice but it's not a realistic expectation.
I don't think everyone does it, but sometimes we can say things that might seem offensive to others, and I think it's just a reality check to try and hold that back.
I think OP needs a reality check when it comes to internet forums. People here will make very nice comments and very mean comments. In between that, you'll have people share their opinions without anazlying whether or not they're coming acros as pleasant/light-hearted. That's just how it is and none of us can change that. Frankly, if OP is truly that sensitive when it comes to reading unpleasant comments.....then its best that she stay off forums (or at least wedding forums b/c I have yet to see a wedding forum where EVERYONE is super nice ALL the time).
Besides, the thread that inspired this thread is about celebs. Celebs aren't stupid. They make their career out of getting attention (whether it's good OR bad) and are laughing all the way to the bank. I wouldn't waste a single moment worrying about their feelings b/c someone made a nasty comment about how they looked on their wedding day. Receiving negative comments/backlash is part of their CHOSEN career and they're fully aware of it.
I think the concern here was primarily that she wanted to post pics of her sister's wedding and didn't want to read the responses if they weren't glowing reviews. And that's okay. I can understand not wanting to read anything negative about an event that is so close at heart but to suggest that negative opinions are "hatred" is a far cry from the truth.
Besides......I refuse to believe that members here are so callous that they wouldn't know how to temper their words when commenting on a member's relative as compared to a celebrity who will likely never read let alone care what is written.
If we can say we like something or someone looks beautiful, why cant we say we dont like something, or some dress or someone is ugly?
Why do our negative comments and opinions get censored by the talking head moderators on this website?
Saying someone is beautiful is hardly teh same thing as saying someone is ugly.....how are they even remotely the same?
I realize I may sound like a hypocrite since I've said my share of "honest" things in the past......but ppl who like to cross the line love to say "I'm just being honest"....as if anyone who compliments anyone is a liar or bobblehead....interesting.
Saying someone is beautiful is hardly teh same thing as saying someone is ugly.....how are they even remotely the same?
I realize I may sound like a hypocrite since I've said my share of "honest" things in the past......but ppl who like to cross the line love to say "I'm just being honest"....as if anyone who compliments anyone is a liar or bobblehead....interesting.
an opinion is an opinion no matter the substance. if positive opinions are acceptable, then why arent negative opinions? especially if someone is putting their pictures or questions online for people to comment on. and as far as others putting your pics online, to that I say they are probably online in the first place on facebook or picasa, etc. and not well protected. if you dont others to comment on or share your pics, dont put your pics on the internet.
i mean this is a public forum on the internet, not your protected safe sanctuary where everyone has to protect your fragile state of mind
If mods were routinely censoring ALL negative comment/opinions, then that Amir & Faryal thread would not have made it to 9 pages. You can also go through the bridal pics thread and see plenty of comments where posters did not like what the bride in the picture chose. In fact…the irony of this statement is that you’re posting it on a thread created by someone who thinks this forum allows hateful/negative comments!
Mods are not concerned with negative opinions. They’re concerned with HOW those opinions are shared. We don’t generally intervene as long as there aren’t any curse words, no other members are being insulted, and the discussion is kept civil (ie. 2 members aren’t fighting with one another).
You already know that there are often times that OTHER people put pictures online without the brides’s knowledge so I don’t need to explain that. Do not make an ASSUMPTION that every bride whose picture is posted without her knowledge is posting the pics on social media accounts herself. I don’t know the type of weddings you attned…but the wedding I go to often have guests who have cameras/cell phones and they take pics. Often bride’s parents/siblings etc. also e-mail pics to share with family/close friends who were not at the event…who in turn leak the pics. If you can control what every-single-person in your life does regards to your wedding pics…that’s great for you. But that’s not a realistic expectation for the rest of us.
This is a public forum created and run by private individuals who have every right to decide what content they want on their site. They have certain guidelines they expect all members to follow and there is nothing wrong with that. In fact, last time I checked…every forum usually has a set of guidelines and mods who have been assigned to ensure members follow those guidelines/expectations of the site creators. It’s nothing that’s "special’ to this forum only.
Yes thanks for answering my post in a roundabout way. Have fun moderating on the internet, and protecting the innocent and voiceless victims of cruel internet.
Really progressive ideas you guys are promoting here among adults.
You are welcome! Oh and no worries. We plan on having fun for years to come (and I’m positive that Muzna will agree with me on this).
Meanwhile I hope you continue to come back here over and over again, and have fun posting as you have been doing since 2009. After all…it’s not like you can keep yourself away from a forum with such “progressive ideas.”.
Yes thanks for answering my post in a roundabout way. Have fun moderating on the internet, and protecting the innocent and voiceless victims of cruel internet.
Really progressive ideas you guys are promoting here among adults.
Have you even read the whole thread and what I've been saying?
Oh and no worries. We plan on having fun for years to come (and I’m positive that Muzna will agree with me on this). 
