hmmm i totally understand wehre ure comin from.. what u dont know is that for most desi girls, marriage is freedom! it's this fantasy place where everything is pretty and ure a princess on this pedestal! plus ure out of the hold of ur parents/ families... chances are ur husband will be ur prince charming... or he wont be! but u can still do what u want since ure married... and noone would look u funny, or ask u stupid questions!
like they say... u dont know what uve been missing till u hav it :)
ummmm... well some ladies out there totally want that! like ive heard enough theories on how an older man will pamper his young, booty-full wife.. but ive also seen enough marriages where the age-gap leads to miscommunication.. infact communication's ixnay!
yo afridi bhai, she's not jealous! she's just stating facts and wondering what it is that she's missing out on.. and if it's really all that!
I appreciate your attempts to try and understand my motives and disillusionment with what I see (in essence) as child marriages, as correct as you are about the lack of jealousy - I assure you that there is no wistful longing or curiosity on my part either. I really just think that people need to slow down and enjoy life as individuals before they sign up to a life of compromise and adulthood.
So far as the "freedom" is concerned. The individuals I am talking about are educated, several of the girls went to LSE a year early, re: 17 are now engaged/married through their own free will. They have never faced restrictions of any sort. I know females from all these interim spectra and know that that has acted as a motivation for some, however, my issue is more with the trend of younger brides (even grooms).
If there is a lack of clarity in there anywhere Ill be more than happy to transparentise it (I made up a word).
The thing is that a younger person m/f whatever, has two options as he/she is younger, either to get married and enjoy or to remain unmarried and "enjoy"!
In my personal opinion you shud get married when you think you can take up the responibilites that come with it, either physical, emotional or financial and social. Age should not be a problem in it.
As per my observation many youngster are matured enough to enter into this life long comitment of marrige when they are quite young and on the other hand many mature adults are never mature to take this challenge up.
My bottom line is that unmarried life and married life are two beautiful phases of life and both should be enjoyed to maximum.
Because you can really have nice clean fun oriented bachelor life or you can also go ahead and experience things which are meant to be in ur married life.
Research shows that a happy marriage is the key to surviving everything life throws at you.
The findings run contrary to popular opinion that single people who have a carefree lifestyle suffer least stress. Instead it is those who are in a loving relationship who are most laid back.
It is thought that married people benefit from being able to talk through their day with someone after work and bounce ideas off them for ways of resolving problems.
Previous studies have shown that those who marry are far more likely to live longer than those who never tie the knot.
This could be because married people look after themselves as they have someone else to live for. They also benefit from the added support from having extra friends.
Psychologist Dr Roxane Gervaise monitored the stress levels of more than 400 nurses working in Yorkshire hospitals.
She found that those who were married, or in a steady relationship, were least affected by the strains of their job.
She said: “Nurses don’t really have an outlet for their emotions at work, but when they get home, they do have an outlet.”
