Few days ago I was attending a gathering where the aunties (obviously all married) ended up talking about how they have to be dependent on their husbands to provide them the money to run the household…and sometimes they tend to fall short on their spending (or they don’t have enough to safe some of it). I mean for most parts they were happy but they were just complaining about how they’re unaware of the fact that how much their husbands make…and how they spend it. For example, sometimes they’d see some money in their husband’s wallets that’s gone the next day (err…perhaps to his parents/family back in Pakistan). And upon their inquiry (or nagging), the husbands got mad as it’s their money and they simply don’t need the reason to answer them.
So my question(s) to the males is that when you get married (or if you’re already married), would you tell your wives how much you make and how you spend your money? And how much of your salary would you give to her?
Questions to females is that if you aren’t working and have no other way of getting an income, how secure do you feel about depending on your husbands – especially if you come from a house where things have always been given to you without your asking. How comfortable would you feel about asking him for money? And do you feel like your husband should tell you about his spending?
my husband tells me everything about how much he has spent and how much he makes...etc...and since i work too he knows my ins and outs of account...thats purely coz v have to share the bills ets and savings together........and wen i dotn work.....he gives me how much i want wen ever i ask.......as long as im not fuzool kurchiing.....
but it wud bugg me if he starts hiding and not telling me and not giving me wot i want coz i like to treat myself sumtimes in a while...:p
I know how much my husband earns mashallah and vice versa. As i have an income of my own and can treat myself from my own money, there is no need to ask him. But the amazing thing about him is that he sees the financial aspect to be his resposibility and sorts everything out himself. He doesnt let me worry about any bills etc. He has also arranged some money every month that goes into our joint account for the shopping for the house etc.
I dont feel right or comfortable in asking him or anyone else for money and i dont see the need to - i feel that if i need something for myself, than i can provide for myself with my income!
I know how much my husband earns mashallah and vice versa. As i have an income of my own and can treat myself from my own money, there is no need to ask him. But the amazing thing about him is that he sees the financial aspect to be his resposibility and sorts everything out himself. He doesnt let me worry about any bills etc. He has also arranged some money every month that goes into our joint account for the shopping for the house etc.
I dont feel right or comfortable in asking him or anyone else for money and i dont see the need to - i feel that if i need something for myself, than i can provide for myself with my income!
My husband gives me all access to hsi money, afterall I'm the one running the household and paying bills. I make good money too and he knows that but still. Women are incharge of buying groceries, paying bills, etc
He would come and ask me to send X amount of money to family back hoem sometimes and I'll do it. His family has a right over him too . Who would they ask?
I feel no guilt in buying a nice gift for my sisters's birthdays or events as my money goes in teh same pot!!
Even if I would not have been workign I still can't see my husband nagging over money!! It's OUR household, not his or mine!!
Once you get married there is no more "mine", theres only "OURS". Sometimes its the wife thats better at handling and planning the monthly budget and sometimes its the hubby but when the hubby keeps it all secret and just hands an "allowance" to the wife, that puts a total kabosh on the whole teamwork thing and turns it into more of a boss/underling type of relationship.
One should always be honest and tell the truth to one's spouse. In the situation mentioned, I would insha'Allah try to give the money to my poor relatives which usually goes for my needs (like the money which I had previously decided to keep for buying my new jacket, shoes....etc), instead of sacrificing my wife's needs.
Though my wife would mind it and wish that her needs should be sacrificed instead of mine, as in reality she is more sacrificing than me when it comes to helping poor people.
^ Though it is easier said than done, I pray to Allah to bless us with the strength and wisdom to help poor relatives and also keeping our family happy.
We only have joint accounts, and I pay the bills because the husband works longer hours than I do. We both put our funds into the same account, and bills and everything else is paid out of that account. Our relationship is a partnership, and we trust each other with regards to the finances. The only thing we occasionally disagree on is what amount to send back. I do not believe in supporting people who are physically able to work but choose to exploit their relatives instead or ensuring that everyone have the latest model of everything.
The only thing we occasionally disagree on is what amount to send back. I do not believe in supporting people who are physically able to work but choose to exploit their relatives instead or ensuring that everyone have the latest model of everything.
Once you get married there is no more "mine", theres only "OURS". Sometimes its the wife thats better at handling and planning the monthly budget and sometimes its the hubby but when the hubby keeps it all secret and just hands an "allowance" to the wife, that puts a total kabosh on the whole teamwork thing and turns it into more of a boss/underling type of relationship.
Ditto. I've seen usually women are the better accountants.
well.. generally I have noticed women to be more careful with the money. So if the lady of the house is handling expenses/budgeting etc., then it's a smooth sail. You wouldn't get too rich, but you wouldn't become pennyless as well.
Men, however, are risk-takers, and thus their actions can result in exponential returns or losses.
