Still waiting to get settled

[Paheli00]

Re: Still waiting to get settled

@coolgirl

I don’t see what’s wrong with getting married to someone that will be settled down in future. Hubby and I got married when both of us were finishing up school. He was finishing his masters and I was finishing up my 2nd bachelors degree. So many girls are after men that will provide them financial security that they ignore other important factors to make marriage work. Why not have your own financial security before you step into marriage. I don’t see anything wrong with this rista if the family and guy is willing to make it work.

I 100% agree with you on the red line. I think this applies to both guys and girls. Except in the OPs case, she’s just now starting law school so she herself does not have financial security.

I don’t think there’s anything “wrong” with getting married to someone who will be settled in the future. BUT…why take that risk? I agree that there are MULTIPLE factors that make marriage work…but financial stability is 1 of those major factors that has the potential to destroy a marraige (or at least make it very miserable).

A successful/stable marriage is hard enough…looking at the divorce rate these days…many people give up. Life after marraige gets harder in terms of stress/responsibility (especially once children come in). Why not wait and begin marriage with the least amount of “stress factors” as possible?