I think in the west there’s the stereotype of the wicked stepmother, thanks to fairy tales like Cinderella etc, or at least it used to but nto as much anymore… but how are stepmothers/stepfathers viewed in our culture?
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our culture ?
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there is no step mother/father in "our" culture. They are only ammi k shoher or abbu ki bv ....
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I think we have a similar culture too, if someone is 'suteela' they're automatically assumed to be biased and unfair towards their step kids. Obviously it varies from person to person, a stepmother may be better than a real mother who she ran off with someone else leaving kids behind (it does happen). It's just that only the bad stepmothers get highlighted, no one hears about the good ones.
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yes monk, our desi culture.
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I have seen the worst and best case scenarios both in our culture.
A friend of mine was 13 when her mom died and her father remarried, the woman was a witch and used to beat her up and then would act all innocent in front of her dad. But eventually he realized and divorced her.
This uncle in my family got married and had a one year old son when the wife passed away, he was alone and couldn't take her of the boy so he remarried. The woman came and made his and his boys life heaven. The step mom is more than a mother to the little boy. She behaves/acts like his real mom, infact better than her. He is mashAllah now 8 and is blessed with a wonderful mom.
So i guess you cant generalize!
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yes monk, our desi culture.
i can tell you how it is in Pakistani culture, if you are interested.
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Desi stepmoms have the same image as Cinderella's did.
Although I have seen some good examples too I have to say. My uncle remarried after his first wife passed away and his current wife does a very good job of taking care of uncle, home and his 3 children.
Then there are bad examples too.
Stepfathers are usually neutral. I dont think Ive met any horrible ones (oh except one).
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so anyone here raised by a step-parent or a step parent themselves?
i know of one situation where the stepparent was nice and always tried their best but it was the stepkids who were a nightmare.
And then one where stepparent was a nightmare...but in that case, it was the fault of hte parent who let it happen.
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yeah.
khobsorat_collection.. remember ?? :D
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so anyone here raised by a step-parent or a step parent themselves?
i know of one situation where the stepparent was nice and always tried their best but it was the stepkids who were a nightmare. And then one where stepparent was a nightmare...but in that case, it was the fault of hte parent who let it happen.
My best friend has a stepdad, he's a really nice guy. His dad died when he was 3 so his stepdad is as good as a real dad to him, he has a younger step brother too, MA they have a lot of love in their family.
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I know a few people with step parents and my brother is a step dad, what I've mainly witnessed is step moms getting over involved and trying to replace the childs mom (even when thier real mom is still alive) and step dads not getting involved enough.