i m friends with a girl in neighbourhood. his dad has two wives one her mom and 2nd other women..she has a step brother from that mom..she never bad mouthing his bro but never talked about him..if we (other neighbour girls along with me ) ask about him she say he must be good,if we ask her to talk with him she says i dont need too..na mujhe zarorat hai na shooq…main baat karon na karon milun na milon koi farq nahi perta like she is denying he is not her bro …always said he has own life i have own…he is living his and i m living mine
few girls say we dont understand her thoughts about this issue ..
some girls says that this is his dads fault he didnt ask or force them to meet or talk and live like bro and sisters
and some girls says (along with me) that there is not his dad faults..they both are adult its good that her father didnt force him and her and let them decide how they wana take this step relation…
we think its good to have distance in step relation
i m just asking generally…what do u think about step relations guppies???
I think it's her choice. correction they aren't step... they are half brother and sister b/c they share one parent. (sorry it was annoying me)... i have 2 half sisters and i don't even know their names.
Steps are steps. Your friend is no way acting out or "not trying". Generally even if the children are brought up together there will ALWAYS be some stigma attached to the fact that they have different mothers. It's best to keep away from each other. The way she is acting is not something you or your friends should consider "ajeeb". This is normal and how it is.
uff i just talked about her anyway…didnt mean that i want u all to disscuss her or i m interfaring in her personel matter even i didnt ask to reply on her relation with her bro..was just asking generally …
as mostly step relations are like this that steps bro sis dont wana meet talk etc…they maintain distance and not very keen or eager to have a normal relation like real siblings..plus dad and mom dont ask them for thsi too …so is it parents fault or its good to have distance …
“i CLEARLY WROTE WHEN I STARTED THIS THREAD THAT I M JUST ASKING GENERALLY ABOUT STEP RELATIONS”…
Well one of my uncles has two wives, and the kids even lived under the same roof, but they behaved more like acquaintances versus a brother sister friendly relationship.
I think its owed to the tension between two mothers more so than themselves that leads to such a relationship.
My grandpa got married and had a child..then for some reason they got divorced and 11 years after that he got married to my nani and had 5 kids...well my mom met her half sister when she was an adult because they lived in different cities...and even now...they talk and she has a great relationship with my khalas and mamus...
It's a horses for courses situation for everyone when it comes to half-siblings or step parents.
Even if someone 'forces' you to have contact with someone it won't always result in a united relationship for all to see.
Some steps get on really well, on the other hand some cannot stand to see the other party and vice versa.
If someone wishes to talk about their family then that's clearly up to them, if someone seriously doesn't want to discuss their family then that's up to them too-even if it's step/non step.
was just asking generally …