I’m sure there must be guppies with firsthand experience of having step parents and step siblings…or perhaps are a step parent themselves.
Can a relationship between step parents and children ever be the same or a replacement for that between ‘real’ biological parents and children?
It should be... in a perfect world.
It is by far most difficult relationship for both parties as if the parents never discriminated child but once if they get angry and say something to child, the child will think it is because , they are not his real parents . Not realizing in reality many parents treat their own children very badly.
Generally most of the time.. one of the step parent is more kinder then other.
I have a step mother and two step brothers. My step mother is extremely nice to me, loves me like a real daughter, I love her a lot too. She is a very good human being. If that is possible, I love my step brothers as much as my own brothers and they love me the same, I am their only sister and they would do anything for me. I never felt that they are my step relations, because they have always done more than anyone can imagine for me. I pray to Allah swt that our relationship always stay like this aameen sum aameen.
^ Aameen.
Yeah it really saddens me when I hear stories where step moms are beating their step children or step chidlren not respecting their step moms.....or dads.
If you (any parent in general) are a step parent, it's not the child's fault. It's both parent's fault, step and real. They should've discussed the issue before getting married. Every child deserves love. If you'll love the child, he'll give you twice the love you give him/her back to you. Treat a child bad, sooner or later she/he'll be a grown up and you'll be old. You'll need his/her care/love and that'll be the time for him/her to pay back and I don't think a mean step parent will get any love back.
The choice is yours. Think of your future before you make any decision.
It's sad but I'm pretty indifferent to it. If a situation arises where I might actually have to live with them (step mom n kids), I don't think I'll be happy. Everybody has their own situation and circumstances.
Ive known of one step relationship at close hand where the man married a woman who had a daughter from a previous marriage. As daughter got older they must have had problems cause she ran away from home and am pretty sure she would not have if she wasnt step.
This day and age people dont even respect and listen to their own parents, so what chance will step parents have. I dunno it can be quite difficult for some people.
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*Originally posted by irem: *
I have a step mother and two step brothers. My step mother is extremely nice to me, loves me like a real daughter, I love her a lot too. She is a very good human being. If that is possible, I love my step brothers as much as my own brothers and they love me the same, I am their only sister and they would do anything for me. I never felt that they are my step relations, because they have always done more than anyone can imagine for me. I pray to Allah swt that our relationship always stay like this aameen sum aameen.
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Thats a very idealist situation there Irem, I have a stepmother too and our relationship has always been a bit rocky. However I do have a great relationship with my stepsiblings.
Do you mind if I ask if your birth mother is still around?
Ive a step mom but she doesn't see me like
her own daughter.
One of my uncles married for a second time. He had three sons from his first marraige. The sons and new wife unfortunately didn't get along too well. The father was doomed no matter what he did. If he pleased his sons the wife would be upset and vice versa. She had a daughter later whom the boys loved to bits but things only got worse between the boys and the step mother. Eventually the boys left home and went back to their own mother, cut off all ties with their father and sister too. Sad.
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*Originally posted by Femme Fatale: *
One of my uncles married for a second time. He had three sons from his first marraige. The sons and new wife unfortunately didn't get along too well. The father was doomed no matter what he did. If he pleased his sons the wife would be upset and vice versa. She had a daughter later whom the boys loved to bits but things only got worse between the boys and the step mother. Eventually the boys left home and went back to their own mother, cut off all ties with their father and sister too. Sad.
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That's very sad.